to not remind people about my birthday

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I've been "told off" by several different friends some close ones and others both old and new for not reminding them my birthday was coming?

its not like I did anything special that came up in conversation. even my ex (son's dad) forgot!

do u expect your friends to remind you?

Isn't reminding people pretty much the same as saying "Don't forget to get me a present"? I think it'd seem a bit grasping - if a friend randomly told me it was her birthday next Friday I'd be a bit .

WTF?

Shame on them for not remembering?
Shame on them for being so disorganised, lazy, selfish even??
Friends, really?

exactly hassled

How so they know if you haven't reminded them?

No. I rather hope they will forget.
They don't though. I just get skitted about being old.

However if you are going to be upset at them forgetting then yes you should drop it into conversation, or if you want to do something. I wouldn't dream of leaving dh to remember however

I don't remind people. I never forget a birthday and always make some sort of effort. Or I did.

Many people can get fucked now

No you shouldn't have to remind people it's your birthday.

Gamerchick I agree!

Isn't that what calendars are for. Can accept forgetting the first time but after that it should be put on the calendar. If you haven't got one then bloody get one.

Funny how they can remember dates that involve freebies

Someone at a new job I had just started asked me about something happening and I said oh yes I will remember that date, it's my birthday. Then it came up in conversation again later and without thinking I said oh yes that's my birthday. I must have sounded desperate.

It's fine to not remind people about your birthday provided that you don't care whether they forget it or not.

If you'd get upset about not receiving a card / present then you should remind them.

I do not remind anybody. If they cared they would make a note of it in their phone/diary. Some friends/acquaintances never remember my birthday.

I in know way expect people other than immediate family to remember off the top of their heads.

I am often asked how do I 'remember' so many birthdays. Once I know of someone's birthday date, I note it in my diary and transfer info to diary the following year.

Depends how much a birthday means to you. If you like a fuss made, then you should be saying something like - can we go out that weekend to celebrate my birthday o do you want to come over for birthday tea next week. If you don't bother with it, then it doesn't matter that they didn't know.

Yanbu but I would hate the fuss and only a few people know my birthday. I always find it a bit weird when people arrange parties for themselves.