To not appreciate being yelled at in the street by a crazy woman!

[ScrambledEggAndToast]

I was on the way out to dinner with DS a minute ago when a woman came up to DS (please note, DS, not me). She said "are you xx from xx school" He replied yes and she started ranting that he had been calling her daughter a bitch. I stepped in at this point and informed her that I was his mother and any problem she had should be addressed to me. I asked if she had witnessed any of this or had any proof and she had to admit that she didn't. This is genuinely the first I have heard of this so I was completely bewildered as DS has been really well behaved this term, even winning a head of year award.

She was ranting while I remained calm. Her parting shot was "fuck off" and then stormed off. I was nearly in tears and was shaking. Needless to say we didn't end up eating out and are now waiting for a takeaway.

I am going to call the school tomorrow to get their take on it. DS says that there was some name calling on both sides but denies calling her a bitch. Surely the school would have been in touch if it was that bad?

How old are the DCs?

12

No accounting for peoples actions is there OP. That must have been a huge shock.

I am in no way condoning what this woman has just done but you have just said your son has been well behaved this term. Has he not always been well behaved?

Well, if the daughter is anything like the mother...?!
Enjoy your takeaway.

She should not have yelled at you like that so for that YANBU. Thet was unacceptable.

That said, she may be at the end of her rope if her DD is being bullied or having a hard time. Your DS may have been involved in trading insults but possibly others will have to. She may well be projecting because you and your DS happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. The school may not be doing enough in her opinion if she is being bullied. My daughter has been bullied almost all of her life and I have felt utterly murderous when confronted with one who had assaulted her twice. (I reported her to police rather than risk being arrested myself)

IME even the nicest, most well behaved kids can be involved in bullying type behaviour so it would be as good idea to speak to the school.

I would want to know from school what was going on. He may be innocent or he may not.

You should speak to the school to clarify if your DS has been involved with anything to do with the girl. I agree with what can't believe said.

She should not have spoken to you like that, and her anger may well be misplaced. I haven't yet behaved like a madwoman in the wake of DS1's bullying, but I can completely understand how it happened. I'd talk to the school. Sounds like a situation that they need to get to the bottom of. Poor you, though. It does sound very unpleasant.

He was very badly behaved last term but it was always things like shouting out in class/disrupting lessons etc. nothing involving other kids. I will certainly be doing my best to get to the bottom of this.

Nothing you know about then OP. Again, Im not saying what this mum did was right but I'd be looking at my sons behaviour and asking why this has just happened. Unless the woman is totally mad there is something behind it.

She had no right to come up to him in the street and shout at him. If she had a problem with his behaviour and wanted him to be held accountable then she needed to schedule a meeting with you, him, her daughter and the school. I suggest you do this instead.

But even IF her son had called the girl names, yelling to a kid and his parent to "fuck off" is clearly not acceptable.

Obviously not acceptable in any way shape or form but it came from somewhere. I can safely say no-one has ever come up to me in the street and accused my son of anything.