to worry that this isn't normal for a nearly three year old

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I can't leave my nearly three year old on her own at any point as she will

• spill any drink on any surface
• put anything she finds in her mouth
• take the soil out of plant pots and throw all over floor

She won't eat without smearing food all over herself and all over everything around her

I can wear necklaces, any jewellery as she trys to eat it, rips it off me

If I give her pens, paints, she just eats them.

Constantly refuses to walk or runs away.

bites me and other children.

Her brother has disabilities and at nearly six has the motor skills of a 2 year old. I think she has been affected too :-(

or am I over reacting and these things are normal?

whilst I am not trying to dismiss other posters suggestions a lot of her behaviour is borderline normal ime - some kids are just slower at developing the emotional control in certain situations.

at the risk of causing offence (and I certainly don't mean to cause any) could she be jealous of the attention her brother is receiving and is therefore trying to carve out a way of getting some of that attention for herself? it would certainly explain your comments about her behaviour in terms of fighting with him. please don't take that I mean she gets none of your attention but to a 3yo it must be hard to understand why her brother needs more care and attention in certain areas than she gets and this could be her way of taking some sort of control maybe?

The things in mouth sounds like mine at 18m-2yo. And the drink tipping. She would do it to wind me up. It just gradually stopped.
She doesnt eat playdoh but anything like that plus peas/sweetcorn is at risk of going up her nose, this was up to about a month ago at 32m. I think it was attention, cheekiness etc. and tiredness.
I just say im taking x away as you arent playing with it nicely.
With the biting if at a playgroup i would just take her home.
I think a lot are capable of this behaviour but it would depend how often this is i.e does she never play nicely with the paint or is the eating it very occasional?

no it's every time, can't ever give her paint or crayons or pens or anything because she'll eat them x

If a parent has concerns it's always worth getting an assessment IMO.

Does she have a dummy? The reason I ask is my dd used to lick things and put everything in her mouth. I got rid of her dummy (for unrelated reasons) she stopped the licking and mouthing literally over night. It was so strange. Could be complete coincidence but just thought I'd share.

I've often wondered about sensory processing disorder with regards to my son. Thing is they are both inconsistent, about don't have all the traits .

This morning she's pulled the leaves off my rubber plant and tried to eat the soil.

She also won't leave my breasts alone, continually grabs, squeezes and bites them. I weaned her over a year ago, but she stills asks for milk a few times a week.

She doesn't have a dummy, but she would if she could. I got her a chewie necklace but she won't use it.