I do not know a single woman who has not been 'sexually' abused in some way myself included. These are just a few examples
Groping
Attempted rape
Flashing
Obscene phone calls.
etc etc.
The attempted rape was by a neighbour I knew well. Never reported it but I heard it was 'his thing' years later. How many did he 'succeed' with?
Flashing - I was alone on all the occasions.
Being groped on a crowded tube train when a guy rubbed his erect and naked penis up against me. I was 20 and I wish I had had the courage to scream at the top of my voice 'Fuck off you disgusting fucking pervert' and pointed him out to everyone. I didn't but I was NOT to blame.
I feel ashamed of my 'complicity' in their disgusting acts and applaude everyone with the nerve to come forward but again I was NOT to blame.
A lone goose honking is a lonely place to be and anything that makes it easier for a victim of serious sexual abuse to stand up and tell their story needs all the support they can get.
I still feel the need to reach for the phone and tell the police about the 'neighbour' and that was 25 years ago when I was about 20. Who else would come forward?
Do I put his name out there?