To not have a party for DD?

[Treacleupthehill]

Dd is one next month.

I am part of a baby group and know some women through it and we all had baby girls in March/April/May 2014 so the 'one year' mark is now here or approaching.

I've never really gone in for the party thing although I like going to other people's and I am a bit worried I'll look rude if the invitation isn't reciporacted.

The problem is, we are a wee bit isolated and so the ONLY people at DDs party would be these women - while when I go to their DDs parties it's a combination of families and other friends.

We have a gorgeous garden so a little spring party might be nice but it seems a bit silly and embarrassing to have a 'party' and five women - none of whom I know that well. It seems a bit forced and daft.

Or should I make the effort to do something small?

Well don't. Just do what you please. If you were all good friends, you could have a little picnic or something between you, but you said you are not that close.

It's more that I've been to their parties eaten their cake :) so am a bit worried it'll look rude if some sort of gesture isn't forthcoming on my part!

You don't need to do a party unless you would enjoy it. Your child won't be bothered either way. If you do want a party then I wouldn't be embarrassed about only having the other mums there no one will think anything of it.

Well you could just do a little birthday picnic in your garden, then distance yourself, don't go to their parties.

I had a picnic/tea party in our garden for 3 friends and their children for my daughter's 1st birthday but we met every week anyway. (separate visit from family)

It was lovely.

Do what you want to do.

Thanks - I don't really want to distance myself so I'll do something small. Just hope they turn up

A little tea party is fine, cake, nibbles etc and throw on some nursery rhymes.

Thanks - just hope they come!

I am sure they will, why would they not .

Your party idea sounds lovely, go for it!

They can't come anyway!

Ah well :)

You have (presumably) given a gift to their children when attending their parties and they don't have to give one to your child as they are not attending yours so you have "paid your way" as it were and have nothing to feel guilty about.

Yes that's true :) thanks.

Don't worry at least you tried, have a fantastic day with dd