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What to do about childcare and Pil

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Mommypoppins · 20/03/2015 09:18

Pil offered to have the children everyday so I could go to work full-time and they wanted the kids to be with them rather than a childminder. I pay petrol as they have to collect the kids everyday from school my dilemma is they come back and cook twice a week for us all and help out which is great.

Sometimes I find it hard coming home with a house full, I feel guilt leaving them when I should be taking care of them and I do a long full week like most mums.

I feel I can not ask them to look after the kids at the weekend, we don't go out anymore as a couple as know one to have kids and I would not ask pil as this would be very selfish.

Should I go back to childminder and get her to have kids one day a week , or find another childminder for all week, or stay with pil.

My parents are elderly and unable to help ,

Also they have the kids three days in the holidays but my childcare for the other two days has fallen through so should I put them in a kids club for the week instead.

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chanie44 · 20/03/2015 09:23

I work full time so I sympathise.

I think it's great that PIL want to help, they sound fab and your children will have a great relationship with them.

Personally, I'd go for a couple of days with PIL and a couple with a childminder so that you've always got another option you can call upon eg if PIL are on holiday of childminder is ill.

woowoo22 · 20/03/2015 09:23

I would do 3 days PIL/2 days CM or vice versa. Coming home to PIL 5 days must be quite hard.

hesterton · 20/03/2015 09:28

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