Tipping and small change

[Jemimapuddlemuck]

DH and I always leave a tip when eating out if we get decent service, around 10% normally, more if they are extra nice or the kids are extra messy!. But DH will also empty whatever bits of change are in his wallet, eg 1ps and 2ps and add it to the tip. I think this is bad tipping etiquette and a bit insulting. He says it all adds up and it's not like that's all he's leaving, so why shouldn't he. AIBU or is he?

Nonsense - nothing says think you like shit loads of pennies, a stamp, an active kids voucher, a bus ticket and some gum.

Thank you not think you

I woudln't find it insulting if it was on top of a 10% tip - I think waiting staff may feel differently if it was instead of a tip though. As your dp says it all adds up.

Sorry but YABU

Suppose it depends if the higher value coins are visible, I would feel bad if it looked like I had only left coppers (even if I hadn't) and would worry that they will just throw it in tip jar thinking it was all coppers and then think badly of me - if it was somewhere I ate often and/or the service had been good

It's insulting. He's basically tidying his wallet and leaving it for the waitress to clear up. No waiter is grateful for copper coins.

I agree with you op! I leave 10 and 20ps, maybe 5ps if I need it to add up, but nothing smaller. Better to put the coppers in a charity tin - then they really do add up and no one is insulted.

When I was a waitress we were seriously unimpressed with people leaving copper and small change.
No one wanted it.

It's fine to leave small change on top of a tip. I have been a waitress, bar maid, chambermaid etc in my time. I was tipped only twice as a chambermaid, over several months of daily work in a four star hotel in the UK. Once it was a few quid, the other time it was 50 pence. If everyone had left small change, I would have been really grateful. It all adds up.

I only ever leave 10% max, if it needs to be made up with coppers as I'm short on cash, so be it. Several restaurants and cafes have a tipping jar or collection pot that gets emptied out and split equally among staff, so it all goes to the same place