Too be peeved, probably should let it go

[seriouslypeedoff]

Have NC as some people know my usual mn name in RL.

Anyway I was at the gym yesterday morning at 6.30am doing a circuits class. The class is mainly men with 3 women, including the instructor who takes part with us. There is usually about 8 men. I am friends with the instructor as she works at the gym and the other woman. I also get on really well with the other men in the class. I actually really enjoy the class, partly because the people are fun to be with. Every other day of the week I go after the school run.
So 2 new men attended yesterday. They are members and I have seen them but don't know them very well. One of the new men were speaking to a group of us conversation went like this

New guy 'its busy this morning'
Instructor 'mornings and evenings are busy, middle of the day is very quiet there is only usually toobepeeved here at 9.30am'
New guy 'thats because the rest of us work'
Me 'i work too, just easier to come in at 9.30 for me'
New guy 'yeah but I have a real job'
Me 'excuse me?'
New guy 'i have a full time job, I don't get to work part time like most women'
Me 'actually, you are wrong. I work full time too. Not that its your business. I work for myself and work when I need to.'
New guy 'making cakes at home isn't a real business'
Me 'what?'

I don't make cakes for a living. I can only assume he was having a pop at women who run small businesses from home. At that point the instructor stepped in and told him he was rude to assume a woman must only work part time. Then the other people in the class got involved and it became very heated. Basically everyone calling this guy sexist.

I am still peeved today. I don't think there is anything wrong with sahm or working pt. But I hate the assumption that because I have time to go to the gym, that I don't 'have a real job'. All the other people know I run a very successful business.

I feel I shouldn't be peeved as he is an idiot and, really there is nothing wrong with not working or working pt when you've you have kids. But his tone really fucked me off. Please someone tell me if iabu to be annoyed and thanks for reading.

The only thing I think YABU is for being up, out and at the gym at 6:30am

He is an idiot and I'm glad the instructor and the others in the class stood up for you. Sexist arse.

Another I started it because dh needs to leave for work at 8.30 and ds wasn't in school. I can't be arsed on a night, but do like going to the gym. Now ds is at school in the mornings, I go purely because everyone in the class is so fun. They have become friends. Its bloody hard to get up though, don't know how I did 5 mornings a week.

Thank you. I thought I was maybe being over sensitive.

The bloke's an unreconstructed knob and you have every right to be angry.

It's very uncomfortable to be confronted by such blatant sexism. Truth is its there a lot of the time affecting the way people think and act. Maybe keep hold of a bit of that anger!

YANBU - it really annoys me when people make assumptions like that. Even if you worked PT I don't see how that would equate to not having a real job .

He sounds like an idiot very insecure. I wonder what his 'real' job is?

Sounds like he has issues with women. You probably made him happy by taking the bait. If he starts again just say oh well shit happens. Don't need to justify yourself to this prick!

He has a massive chip on his shoulder. You on the other hand have a nice supportive group of excersise buddies

What a cock. He's lucky it didn't turn into a kickboxing class.
I think you did well to put him right and it's great the rest of the class saw he was a cock.
I wonder if he'll be back.

I'm going to guess he's a bitter divorcee with an ex wife who works part time making cakes and he pays loads of child maintenance

what a cock.

How rude. I'd probably have come back with a poker-faced, deadly serious reply of "I'm a stripper, so I only work in the evenings." But then again I love winding people like this up

Like pp I'd love to know what his 'real' job is and why it's any more superior to yours. PT work is still having a job!

It annoys me that, because I work p/t due to childcare of my DS (I share it with my DP) I'm constantly getting comments from other staff like "Oh another half day is it?" or "Lightweight!!!"
I just think 'oh fuck off' in my head, but grin at them and say something along the lines of "well you go home to change pooey bums and put a grouchy toddler to bed and I'll stay here and do your job - how does that sound?"

Thank you. To be honest I did see where the conversation was heading until the last minute. I think you are all right, he does have issues. The Gym owner (my pt) said he has spoken to him and told him, he doesn't tolerate that sort of stuff in his gym. He is considering banning him as the instructor complained officially backed by the others. Its only a small gym, so you tend to see the same people all the time and difficult to avoid someone if they are there. Think he does want me to feel uncomfortable. But as I see it, he is the dick so its not me that should be uncomfortable.

didn't see where the conversation was going

lomega I wish I had thought of that!

Or an escort

He sounds a sexist bastard. Glad the others stuck up for you too! Hope he has so much 'real' work to do he drops this class and leaves you in peace.

YANBU OP, he sounds like he has issues.

Thank you! I think he does have issues and after the reaction of everyone at the class I would be very surprised if he did turn up this week. If he does I can only assume he is the type that likes to cause problems.