To feel disappointed with my birthday?

[Bluetone]

Just to start off by saying I'm so low maintenance when it comes to birthdays. I never ask for anything or expect much at all.

Today I got up, woke the kids up for school. 16, 13 and 7. Dh had left a couple of cards by the kettle from him and the dc's. Nice cards etc. Kids forgot it was my birthday so no birthday wishes before they went to school, fair enough. It's not as important as their birthday.

Colleagues at work, no mention even though they read it on work calendar yesterday (everyone's birthday is written there).

Got home and received a text from my mum saying she wouldn't make it round as planned as she had a class to go to.

Not even had a little home made gift to open and now just sitting here on my own feeling sorry for myself. Tell me iabu? I make so much effort for everyone's birthday and as I said I don't expect much but 1 little gift to open would have been nice.

Happy Birthday!
Where is everyone? Maybe you'll get something when they get in.

I don't think you are being unreasonable.

A little bit of appreciation goes a long way with me . I never forget any family birthday so a box of chocs or a bunch of flowers is all it takes to put a smile on my face.

Happy birthday Blue.

Many happy returns.

Yanbu

You should have prompted your kids this morning. I would have danced around with them and made them sing happy birthday or something.
Kids always forget.

Have you got a cake?

Happy birthday!

I wouldn't say you're BU exactly, some people care about birthdays, some people don't. I care. Happy Birthday Bluetone. But I cant imagine my DH ever forgetting my bday because I'd never let.him! I would say to him "What are we doing for my birthday?" ages in advance. I'd also say "What are we doing for your birthday" way ahead of time too so we all know where we are.

As for colleagues though I genuinely wouldn't GAF of they remembered or not and my DD is only 2 so can't comment there really. Sorry you didn't have a good day for it. Next year do you think you could speak to your DH in advance and arrange something for the family/just the yep of you? Might not be as good as a surprise fuss but if you're not getting they them you really have to look to the next best thing, organising a bit of fuss for yourself.

Happy birthday, OP.

Maybe you're too low-maintenance? Why didn't the children know your birthday was coming up, from you or DH mentioning it? Why not prompt them this morning? Do people think you're so easy-going there's no need to make an effort?

*just the two of you
Not 'just the yep of you'. Bah, thought I got all the typos.

YADNBU
Miserable lot. Happy birthday

Happy Birthday to you! I'd feel quite sad too if I were you. That's very disappointing and I, like you, am far from high maintenance.

I think you should open a bottle of wine and surf the web to find a nice present for yourself. Next year, get yourself some flowers and chocs.

I am still waiting for the Xmas present from DH. I wanted to be surprised, he kept wanting me to say what I wanted (in a half hearted way). End result: I got a big fat nothing. I don't think he even noticed.

I got a bunch of flowers for Valentines but then it is also our anniversary (I got him chocs which the bastard still hasn't opened).

I do find that as I get older birthdays, which I used to love, have become a complete non-event. Each year I swear I will enroll myself on a course or go away for the day/weekend, but with work and three young kids it hardly feels worth the faff.

Happy birthday
Personally if it was me I would order Chinese for myself, put on some music and have myself a party. Sod them all!

Well my lovely friend came round and now I'm a bit drunk. Stukk feel sad my kids and husband didn't make an effort

Thanks for the birthday wise s

Dh said he'll get me a present this weekend but hrs had loads of time

I'm miserable about my birthday every year, as it means I am another year older.

Spoil yourself, it's what I do if everyone forgets my birthday.

Happy belated birthday OP

Yanbu but if the mother's day thread was anything to go by, you ought to be grateful for being alive/even having kids and a dh to ignore it

I would go to the hairdressers this week AND buy myself something unneccessary and frivolous AND get dh to buy me lunch at the weekend.
Because You Are Worth It.

Happy Birthday :) glad you got to see your friend

Your kids need to know it's not ok to just forget. 7 y.o. ok, they'd have needed help with organisation, but teenagers are def old enough. You're one of the very most important people in their lives and they should mark that. To say they should get an easy ride just because they're kids is rubbish. DH should be having a word with them- could he?
It's not just for you, it's for them too- they need to develop this sort of social awareness, make it a habit to think about others.
As for your DH, he did get you a card so it's not all bad, but you'd be totally reasonable to let him know you'd like more effort made.

I don't get people who can't be arsed to make a fuss of people on special occasions. Hate the thought of my mum feeling sad that her kid had forgotten her birthday, I would feel so ashamed of myself. Parent child relationships are two way, just because once it was naturally all one sided doesn't mean it should stay that way. It can't be all take on one side and give on the other.