To have been offended?

[itsaminefield]

I was showing a non UK friend of mine Tinder... I got a smart phone recently and find it pretty hilarious... It's a fun way to pass a few idle minutes --procrastinate-- and I'd consider going on a date if someone very interesting crossed my path... She is man crazy so I thought it would be right up her street... She responded that she was not that desperate yet. Ouch! AIBU to think she was being rude?! Or am I just being oversensitive????

you know that Tinder is for casual sex hook ups?

(or thats what i have been told! and why my mum is outraged her granddaughter is on it!! - to which i said, why not, if thats what she wants to do, dont judge (not my DC) )

If i am wrong about it, then apologies, but thats the rep it has which is why your friend said she was not that desparate yet

No she wasn't being rude but she may have been offended at the implication it would be right up her street.

What's Tinder?

Tinders not just for sex hook ups, not unless people want them that way. I've never heard it having that rep, just that it's much easier to use and less messing about with registration.

I think if she was implying you were desperate then yes, that's rude but it's her opinion and you did ask for it by showing her. Didn't you ask her then? Say 'oh so i'm desperate then?'

Perhaps she meant it after seeing what's on Tinder...

It can be for casual hook ups and also for proper dating/ those seeking relationships... Think many use it just for fun/ to browse... My friend is very much into casual sex and we are very open about all things sex and men related... I mentioned that I once went on a date once in my early 20 s with someone from an Internet dating site... Her disdain was more at the idea that she might need to 'resort' to online dating... Considering I had just told her that I had given it a whirl in past I took the judgemental tone a bit personally! She has no qualms about hookups etc

My Ds has asked me if I need help signing up to Tinder..

Bath, it's a dating app. It only matches you if you both say 'yes' to dating, but I don't think you can tell if someone has seen you and rejected just accepted.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tinder_%28application%29

You call her "man Crazy"... She calls you "desperate", I think that you had it coming.

yes you are being oversensitive

Some people do see online dating as desperate OP, I've heard that said by people i know. But then those same people are still single, they don't make the effort to go out so they don't meet people and then see online dating as beneath so they'll probably stay that way a while.

Ofafrenchmind- man crazy was not at all meant in a derogatory way! One of the things about our friendship is that we are very open talking about sex, men, etc... Hence my surprise at her apparently judgemental tone! My first instinct was to feel slighted... But just wondering if I am being oversensitive

I know it as a seriously superficial dating app and mainly used for casual sex. My knee jerk reaction would be similar to your friends tbh!

I think online dating is fantastic btw x

You suggested she needed help finding someone to hook up with, she suggested that a method you have used was desperate - she might have been as offended as you.

I have never been in it. But the impression I got for friends is that it was for hook ups. Not relationships, since you are picking on looks. I wouldn't class it as internet dating tbh

Roffle at Tinder being a proper dating site

Yes you're oversensitive, and extremely naive

I thought it was a hook up site too

Tinder isn't strictly just for hook ups, although of course some use it in that context, although the quality of over 40 men on there is atrocious, why any of them think that women might want to 'hook up' with them is beyond me. Obese, ruddy and sweaty and looking like they are about to succumb to a heart attack doesn't really do it for me.

Whats tinder?

Just followed link. Your poor friend. You being over sensitive.