To feel a little bit bummed

[WrappedInABlankie]

So it is officially my birthday and I have no idea why but I'm a tad bummed it's my second birthday in 4 years being pregnant on my birthday the first time it was my 19th I got nothing from nobody and everyone was pretending like it's just another day not even a card off of my mother and I lived at home the following year I was 20, I spent it in hospital and was there for 3 weeks, nearly needed brain surgery was transferred to a hospital with the best neurological care and narrowly avoided having two shunts put in.
Last year I was 21 and was I. Hospital for an ectopic pregnancy, once again not one single card or acknowledgment, not even a visit in the hospital.

It's most probably hormonally but I just want a day where someone acknowledges for one or I'm not in hospital and I don't feel ginormous, still suffering from morning sickness (26+2) and have terrible SPD and to top it all off DS is ill too AIBU to want that? I mean it's pretty shallow isn't it?

Happy Birthday! Have some and a virtual seeing as you can't have a real one. I know the feeling of 'missing out' on your birthday due to being pregnant, although no idea how terrifying it must have been for your last birthday to have been spent in hospital.

I can totally understand feeling a bit bummed about the prospect of a birthday without the chance to really celebrate in the way you might choose but you have plenty more birthdays to come and you will get to spend them with your beautiful children who will hopefully spoil you rotten when they are old enough to realise how lucky they are to have you.

Thank you

I just feel like I'm either in hospital or pregnant whilst I don't drink even an acknowledgment would be nice. My brother(21) and sister (28) get taken out to meals with their friends and royally spoilt by my mum or Dsis DH. So may be a tad jealous

What about your partner, hasn't he got you anything? (LTB.)

YANBU-Happy Birthday!

Do your parents usually treat you differently from your brother and sister? It's mean not to even acknowledge your birthday, especially when you were in hospital! Do you get on with them normally?

whats I don't know ill see him tomorrow night after he's finished work however DP is lovely so he most probably has or sorted something from DS (he's not his biologically).

Yeah I was the scape goat, Dsis got out early and My brother can do no wrong, literally threw a bath panel at my mum and she just went oh well and I was made to tidy up. I'm NC with DM and him now though which is better for me as they were horrible

It sounds like you're well out of it, but it must still be hard to know that they weren't bothered enough about you to celebrate your birthday! Perhaps you could think of your birthday as a celebration of your strength in breaking free from your mother's cruel treatment of you and use it to remind you how much better you will be as a parent to your kids than your parents were to you.