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AIBU to let DS choose the gift for the birthday girl?

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Kirk1 · 16/03/2015 23:59

DS2(age nearly 4) has been invited to a birthday party this weekend. the girl in question has Frozen stuff coming out of her ears, and I'm really tempted to go with DS2's suggestion that she'd like a dinosaur for her birthday. Shall I, or shall I go find her another bit of tat with Elsa on it because I know for certain she loves Elsa... Not so certain about the dinosaur.

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DoJo · 17/03/2015 00:14

My son has never steered me wrong when picking a gifts for his friends - he goes by what he likes and I figure he has much more insight into the workings of his contemporary's minds than I do! If she's got loads of Frozen stuff, then a change will be nice for her and her parents!

coffeeandcalpol · 17/03/2015 00:25

My daughter (4) wanted and had a frozen themed party and received loads of frozen gifts which she liked and enjoyed, she'd have bloody loved a dinosaur though, follow your child's lead on that one!

steff13 · 17/03/2015 00:32

My daughter is 4, and she loves Frozen, but she also loves dinosaurs. Let him get it, I bet she'll love it.

NaughtyRed82 · 17/03/2015 05:03

I'd say to let your son choose, his friend and his party and if she looks dismayed when she opens it then just say to the parents that your son choose it and you weren't sure and then you choose next time, if she loves it then was worth letting him choose Smile maybe they chat about dinosaurs at school together or play a game to do with them and that's why he'd like to get her one

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 17/03/2015 05:10

DS1 has been party to present selection for his friends since he was around 4, with guidance on the basis of price.
if your DS says a dinosaur, then get her a dinosaur - and if she then doesn't like it, you can tell the mum that your DS really wanted to get her a dinosaur.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 17/03/2015 06:16

Dinosaur + receipt?

waithorse · 17/03/2015 06:56

Dinosaur. Let him choose. There is only so much Frozen tat anyway, you may well buy something she already has if you go down the Frozen route.

VashtaNerada · 17/03/2015 07:01

Oh yes, go for it. Everyone needs a dinosaur

Squeezepast · 17/03/2015 07:02

Elsa and a dinosaur are very much opposite ends of the four year old toy spectrum. I think there's a middle ground in this present purchasing dilemma. Why not go for something a bit dinosaury, rather than a full on dinosaur? My daughter has a nice sticker set and one page is dinosaurs or a book like Zog (he's a dragon but that type of thing).

strawberrypenguin · 17/03/2015 07:17

We've had a run of 4 yo parties recently and I've let 3yo DS choose the present for all of them, all I've done is steer him away from the expensive toys! I figure they are his friends so he should get to choose

Karoleann · 17/03/2015 08:42

I also have a nearly 4 year old DD and she likes dinosaurs as well as frozen. Although her favourite current toys are weapons.....swords and such like.

BizzieBoo · 17/03/2015 08:46

My 3 year old loves Frozen (and had a Frozen themed party) but she also likes Spiderman and dinosaurs and loved the Spiderman dressing up outfit one of her friends chose for her - and not the girly pink one the red one. She'd have loved a dinosaur too.

Gileswithachainsaw · 17/03/2015 08:46

Let him get the dinosaur.

She will either play with it or she won't but it's a gift and they should appreciate the gesture.

I'd avoid frozen at all costs for risk of duplicates.

AnotherManicMonday · 17/03/2015 08:50

My DD is 2.5 and loves frozen and unfortunately has everything frozen that's out there but she loves dinosaurs and often runs round dressed as else with a huge blow up dinosaur in the other arm screaming ROARRRRRR

DeeWe · 17/03/2015 09:32

Not totally sure. I always let my dc choose the present, but we'd talk about what they'd like before we went shopping and generally they got something I thought was a pretty good choice.

However neither of my girls would have been impressed with a dinosaur, and it would have fairly quickly been passed on, probably never played with. Wouldn't bother me as a parent, but as the gift giver I like to give something I think will be wanted and used.

I would go for a middle ground. Not Frozen, but something else you think she'll like, rather than what he would like her to give him.

"When Bill gives me a book, I know
It's just the book he wanted, so
When I give him a ping pong set
He's sure it's what I hoped to get

So after Christmas we arrange
A little Christmas gift exchange
I give the book to Bill and he
Gives back the ping pong set to me

So each gives twice and that is pleasant
To get the truly wanted present."

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Kirk1 · 17/03/2015 23:00

Sounds like the consensus is go with the dinosaur. DeeWe, I see where you're coming from, but DS 2 isn't into dinosaurs (yet, there's still time :p ) His current obsession is Angry Birds. I don't know where the dinosaur suggestion has sprung from! I will take him present shopping on Thursday morning, I'll let you know what he ends up choosing!

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WhispersOfWickedness · 17/03/2015 23:04

I would get the dinosaur Smile I have a 3.7yo DD who loves Frozen and dinosaurs Grin

ErrolTheDragon · 17/03/2015 23:11

Deewees not withstanding, I've never met a small child who wouldn't like a dinosaur. The party bag my DD liked best of any she ever had contained one balloon, a piece of cake and a dinosaur (an all-girls party if you think it makes any difference).

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