I know I am opening myself up for some harsh comments here but I just need to get this off my chest and if people think I am being horrible then I will just have to take it.
My brother has been with his girlfriend for just over 6 months. And they are 3 months pregnant. She also has an 18 month old and a 7 month old from a previous relationship.
My brother and I are close and we are really happy he is happy although I am struggling to be supportive of certain things as to me they just don't make sense.
They live in a 2 bed flat and were under the impression they would automatically be given a house if they got pregnant. They are really annoyed that they are expected to stay in a 2 bed flat with 3 children.
I just find it hard that they feel the are 'deserving' of a bigger property when they made the conscious decision to get pregnant in the first place.
I listen as he vents and shares his upset but sometimes I find it hard to be sympathetic.
Sorry if this sounds horrible but there are also other things that make me worry for them. To feed their youngest they prop up the bottle with a muslin and let her get on with it - to me that is dangerous as there is a risk of choking. And when they visit they seem to leave everyone else to watch the toddler - literally!
When the next little one arrives I just worry so much about how they will get by.
People may say it is none of my business and maybe they are right. I just think it is a bit irrisponsable to decide to have a child now if they are really unhappy they have no choice but to stay in a small 2 bed with the expectation of the little one staying in with them until they are 5.
Ok - I will sit and wait for backlash!