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to not like the present

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lotsofreasons · 16/03/2015 14:25

I have NC for this.
DH got me a voucher for night-time photography walking tour as a Mother's Day present.
Now, I realise that he didn't really need to get me a present at all and I'm grateful that he did, but I just wish it wasn't something that I have to get up and do.
I have a 2yr old DS and I'm 6 months pregnant, I really can't be asked to go to a photography walking tour at night, I usually put DS to bed at 8 then watch about and hour of tv in my pjs with DH before falling asleep as well, the last thing I want right now is to be out of the home past 7pm, is that really horrible?

What should I do?
a) suck it up and go do the tour
b) tell DH that I would rather not do it (he will probably be hurt, no matter how nicely I put it)
c) "forget" to book it and only remember once it's expired (DH would be a upset that I didn't care enough and he wasted money for nothing - I do have form for forgetting things and only recently forgot something really important that caused a lot of stress for both of us)

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MajesticWhine · 16/03/2015 14:27

YANBU to not like it, I don't think I would be that keen either... but I think I would do a)
Maybe you could book it for after you have had your baby. You might be glad to get out of the house and your DH can look after both children.

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lotsofreasons · 16/03/2015 14:39

Thanks, MajesticWhine, but it is valid for 98 days so that's about exactly the time the baby arrives.
I would really need to do this now (if I'm going to do it).
Or I could wait about a month until I have time off from work so maybo won't be as tired, although I will be even more pregnant then and evenings will be lighter so the tour time will be even later....

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AnaisB · 16/03/2015 14:43

I would do as Majestic says - I'm sure if you phone up the company and say you are 6 months pregnant they will extend the date for you.

pepperfish · 16/03/2015 16:12

I have a family member who does this every birthday/Christmas without fail. Indoor skydiving, indoor ice climbing, kayaking, those stupid motorised skateboard on wheels things. I hate it and dread the little envelope every year.

I also hate the follow up phone calls each week - 'have you done it yet?? Can I see the photos??'. GAH!

I've tried the 'accidentally forgetting to book it and whoops, it expired', I've tried telling her I'm not really into all that outdoorsy stuff, and I've tried the 'it's a lovely thought, but I don't know when I am going to find the time to do it'.

The bloody envelopes keep coming.

YANBU.

pepperfish · 16/03/2015 16:17

Ps. I would probably suck it up this time and do it, but maybe say after: 'phew, that was lovely, but next time I'd rather spend the day with you and the DC's!'

Purpleball · 16/03/2015 16:18

If it's from somewhere like red letter days then you can exchange it for something else

misskatamari · 16/03/2015 16:20

I think if you went you'd probably really enjoy it and be glad you did. If you really can't face it though I'd call and see if they can extend it, or see if there are any daytime tours/classes they do.

BlueStarsAtNight · 16/03/2015 16:21

I would definitely phone them and see if they can extend it until after the baby is a few months old. If not, then I'd do a) and just book it, on the understanding that DH gets up with the toddler the next day and gives you a lie-in.

LineRunner · 16/03/2015 16:24

Flog it on eBay or Fb.

Joolsy · 16/03/2015 16:45

It reminds me of the time my SIL bought me a photo session which involved driving across the other side of town & finding parking, 3 times - once to have the photos taken, once to view them & once to collect. All for a tiny little (albeit lovely) photo of my DDs. All because "you like that sort of thing, don't you?" Do I? News to me! If it's something you're interested in, ring them up to reschedule after the baby comes. They'll probably be v. accommodating (like the photo studio were with me when I kept moving our appts!).

MinceSpy · 16/03/2015 17:36

My son has just done a night time walking tour in Central London he absolutely loved it and the photos he took are amazing.

I can understand why at 7 months pregnant and a mum you don't fancy doing it though. Maybe he could use it?

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lotsofreasons · 17/03/2015 11:03

Thanks!

I think I might have to just do it and perhaps i'll actually like it.
I think that once the baby comes I'll want to do it even less.

The thing is it's my DH he is with me every day, he should know better surely...
Then again I can't say that I have always got him the perfect present.

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DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 17/03/2015 11:10

Well top marks for getting you something different but if it really isn't what you fancy maybe he can use it himself. If you do use it he'll think he's found a winner so be sure and say as a one-off it's been great but no more thanks.

SlightlyJaded · 17/03/2015 11:17

I would go option a) suck it up

You might enjoy it
You are being kind to DH who meant well.
It's one evening of your life. Yes it's a PITA to drag yourself out when you are pregnant and tired but there will come an evening when you are stuck indoors with two kids just wishing you could get out. Try to get something out of it.

And try to schedule it on an evening when DH. Is home the next day to give you a lie in.

Tizwailor · 17/03/2015 11:22

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