To think that people thanking their babies and toddlers for their mother's day presents on FB are attention seeking show offs?

[Penguinsaresmall]

This has probably been done to death, but had a quick look at FB last night and loads of my 'friends' had posted pics & messages listing what their DC had given them, saying thank you so much darlings, etc etc. All fine, but when their DC are in some cases babies and at the most eight or nine years old, I would assume these children aren't on FB anyway - so it is clearly just a bragging opportunity.

Rant over. I really don't think FB is for me....

I sooo want that Tudor perfume. I haven't smelled it bit I assume it makes you smell like you've just shagged Damien Lewis and/ or Mark Rylance.

Oh god, and the 'share this candle for all the nans in heaven'.

A facebook friend posted a picture of the card she got from her DD (12 or so). Not the front, oh no... the inside, where DD had written a lot of heartfelt stuff. It just felt so wrong, and yes, I know she might have checked with her DD first. But I thought it was a weird and exploitative) Piece of showing off.

Next year I am avoiding facebook on MD and for a day or two after.

The mistake I've made is in friending random people I knew from school, work, etc, etc over the years when actually I don't care if their DH took them up the Shard.

This is your problem, not Facebook itself - if you are friends with boring, waffly people who post a bunch of toss then you will find Facebook as irritating as if you spent time with a bunch of boring, waflly people who talk a bunch of old toss.

here that's a good question. I have happiness and pride in my children, and my DH. I also had a lovely Mothers Day. But it just wouldn't occur to me to think 'ooh now I'd better go and post everything I received today on FB'. I genuinely don't get it.

The Tudor perfume is fab, it comes with red velvet on the lid and a wax seal on the box......and a voucher for one session with either Mark or Damian, you can only have one or the other I'm afraid.

Am I the only woman on here who's never been taken up the Shard in either sense? I've led a sheltered life!

I love to see that my friends have had such lovely gifts and thoughtful cards from their children, I genuinely do not understand why somebody sharing something positive causes such a negative reaction in so many mumsnetters. I often wonder if any of my friends are secret mumsnetters and if they are constantly judging me for simply enjoying my life and daring to acknowledge that.

Aw I thought the handwritten sentiments I saw posted were sweet. It's not driven by status or the parading of material gains is it? It's taking pleasure in something simple but really gratifying.

You are probably right DoJo.

Goring I saw a hideous one a few days ago doing the rounds - something like 'Behind all great step-children are great step-dads who stepped up and gave a shit' then 'share if you care about step-children and kittens' or something like. And there's another one 'share if you want to stamp out Cancer'...

Just 'why'?

But can you not just think 'that's nice for them'?

It might not occur to you is one thing but 'attention seeking show-offs' and 'bragging opportunity' in relation to people you are supposedly 'friends' with? Just strike me as not nice to be honest.

Baths I have never been up the Shard...

Bath you are tempting me to post my own 'share if you've been taken up the Shard and it didn't cost me a penny (other than the price of the Vaseline)' little pretty box-message thingy.

the messages to dead relatives are the worst.

And actually in my house love, 'taking me up the Shard' has a slightly different meaning and is not something you would tell your friends about...

(not a good look!)

What gets me is the fakeness of the 'thank you hubby/small child who can't read' type messages. I would find it far less showy and irritating if people just said 'had a lovely day because...'

I have a friend who so consistently posts pictures of her food / view / whatever on 'date nights' with her DH that I really wonder if they talk at all...

YANBU. Some of it is lovely but a lot is the same old 'look at my fab life' showcase type people who are all glossy and a bit irritating. It must be my slightly Victorian upbringing but it feels too boasty to me.

The sign of a good relationship is not on FB as someone once said.

Nabootique

Do it, Penguins!

I think we've all got our fb annoyance triggers, and they're quite varied.
I don't mind seeing the cards and flowers of Mother's Day. I don't mind anyone addressing a post to their child or partner to express love.

Were you taken up the Shard on Mothers' Day, penguin? That would make for an even lovelier e-card.

YANBU.

At all.

I don't know, Penguins, but I put it down to emotional incontinence.

YANBU, but we're in the minority, by miles. I just don't understand it. WHY would you want to tell a bunch of mostly randoms about your Mother's Day card, your dead relatives or anything else? Do these people love you? Maybe a few, but they're mostly strangers, they don't give a shit.

I don't want to 'share'. Not when I've bought a nappy bin ("now tell your friends about your purchase!") and not when I get a card.

I'm out of step with modern life. Sigh.

Why would you have strangers as your FB friends?

Miss you Nan RIP" even though the Nan in question is probably dead

probably???
probably???

are some people wishing their live Nans would rest in peace? Seems harsh