To request a kick up the bum (I think)

[Skeeter3]

I'm currently debating with myself wether to go to a special needs toddler group this morning. It would be our first time going.

The reason? I'm worried my lo won't be 'bad' enough to 'fit in'. Dd has developmental delays (she is 26 months but around 15 months average development) she has low muscle tone and an evolving dx of ASD.

We don't fit in at main stream groups as dd stims quite a bit, but she can have a good day where she just appears younger than she is and as she's quite small no one would think there's any issues.

I feel judged at mainstream groups and I'm so worried we won't fit in at the SN group so will be judged there as well.

I think I need a kick up the bum to just get my shit together and go, but I keep talking myself out of it.

Not had direct experience but professionally I expect you wil find everyone happy to meet you.sn covers everything so you will prob meet people in a similar situation or at least wil understands!
Good luck

Definitely go

You will only ever regret not going

I'm actually having anxiety about it, I need to get ready to leave now.

Just potter along and have a look. Maybe it won't be your thing or DD won't take to it, in which case nobody can force you to attend again! But if you don't at least poke your nose in the door you'll never find out.

You never have to go again if you don't like it, and just imagine you were one of the mums already there, and there was someone in your position umming and aahing about going - you'd be welcoming and friendly and encourage them to come along I'm sure!

The first time is always the hardest. Take a deep breath, try and have an open mind and go along, give it s chance!

How did it go Skeeter?