to wonder why if "we" need space, they get the space and we get the kids?

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NC and I am shit at it so there is a fair chance I wont be back on this thread with this username, but I would value opinions on this (MNHQ will confirm my longevity).

Having marital issues atm, we have agreed to live apart for a couple of weeks to think about stuff and see if we can decide what our future holds.

But the issue I have is that he gets to leave and stay with friends and I have to basically live the same life, but doing it all on my own. How are "we" getting thinking space and time?

And no, it isnt about other woman/man, I agree we need time apart to regroup and the living/work arrangements mean that shagging around isnt a possibility for either of us. Its just the assumption that he will be the one to navel gaze for a couple of weeks and I get to do....everything else.

We always joke that whoever leaves takes the kids... has kept us together for decades....

It is hard when they get to "swan off" and relinquish responsibility - but as a PP said - you've got the good stuff...

and to be fair it gives you a realistic picture of what it will be like if/when he leaves...

It all comes down to what will happen if you split permanently. Would you want 50/ 50 care and responsibility? If so you should trial it now. Or would you want primary care with them only staying with him at weekends/ every other weekend.