We had a family day out yesterday. Ds has asd and ADHD. We were at a busy place and it was near closing time. Despite arriving later in the day ds was reaching his limit, and apart from a few moments, had been coping quite well.
So we went to the last exhibition stall where the dc could dress up. Ds was doing the classic not looking at the person speaking and had limited facial expressions. I don't think he would have said more than a sentence the whole time at the stall. Anyway, we did the photo thing then the man running the stall helped dc out of his chain mail. (It was very heavy)
He then said to ds "you don't enjoy life much, do you mate?" Presumably as ds had not smiled or spoken. I then turned to the man and said "he is autistic! you ignorant idiot" (we even had priority stickers on our lanyards which alerted the stall holders to visitors with additional needs)
AIBU that you just don't say that sort of thing to a child? So many disabilities are hidden and even if there are no disabilities involved it just isn't a nice thing to say to a child?