Go easy on me please! My dad has dementia and Parkinson's. My mum who does not keep in good health is his carer. After years of fighting for help and respite he is going tomorrow for a week to a secure unit within a local hospital.
Normally he would come to me if my mum was in hospital but his needs are too far gone for me to care for him here. I feel tremendous guilt as the first and only time he went to a care home when mum was on hospital a few months ago he ended up in hospital himself for 12 days after having a bad fall 20 minutes after arriving.
She badly needs the break but we both feel sick to the stomach of letting him go. It's a secure unit in s hospital though and not the respite place I'm just so worried they won't let him come home again. He has fleeting moments of lucidity and the thought he will know we have put him there breaks my heart. can't rest for thinking about leaving him there and though only booked in for a week I know his needs are too much for my mum at home now. Just upset my lovely, handsome strong dad has come to this. Heartbroken