To think that people who are sneakily nasty about/to you are worse than those that are openly horrible?

[Carriebradshawscloset]

I mean the ones that "like" a slightly bitchy Facebook comment, or who smirk if someone else is rude or unkind to you, or who are nice to you to your face but horrible behind your back.

I would rather that someone is open about whether they dislike me or not, rather than going about it in a passive aggressive way and leaving me wondering if they are really my friend or not.

Yanbu

Whilst I think there is a fine line between being honest and plain rude, even the latter is preferable to underhand, snide passive aggressive behaviour.

Someone I know prides herself on being a "people pleaser and getting on with everybody", when in fact she is utterly two faced and spineless. I have gently pointed out how her behaviour is often perceived on more than one occasion but she takes no notice. She's still amazed when people react badly towards her when it all comes out in the wash, as such kinds of behaviours almost always do.

If people are making bitchy comments on social media aimed at you block them and those that "like" the posts. Job done.

Someone put a passive aggressive post aimed at me on fb, de-friended and blocked. Don't need that in my life.

People aren't friends if they do that. They don't deserve any space in your life, even polite acknowledgement or Facebook friend status.

You're absolutely right; open aggression is far easier to handle than that passive-aggressive shit that never real confronts anything but pisses you off for months on end. That stuff will eat away at your soul.

I'm not sure tbh. If someone is openly rude then I feel they don't even have the respect to hide their contempt, aren't going to care about retaliation (or spoiling for a fight maybe).

Probably we're all guilty of bitching or making horrible remarks about people behind their backs, and would be mortified if they found out. It's fear or respect that stops you doing it openly, or maybe just liking everything else about that person

The social media stuff is different, easier to ignore I think.

I agree.
What I also hate is when people make their little snide comments, but when pressed will not elaborate.
So you're sitting thinking, Well, you've obviously got something to say, so come on, out with it.
Hate passive aggression, would rather deal with plain old aggressive aggression.
Either be brave and say what you're thinking, or STFU.