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To be happy this mothers day ?

21 replies

turquoiseamethyst · 15/03/2015 10:55

No card.

Not one gift.

I don't think DS remembered!

But I have two impossibly beautiful clever funny children. They are healthy. They have their lives ahead of them.

I don't have a mum but I am a mum.

And best of all the person who would normally have got me a card and present is GONE! (STBXH!)

And DS without prompting told me he loved me.

Happy Mother's Day!

We will go to sainsburys later and get a ridiculous bunch of hald peice pastel flowers for all of us just because they're pretty. :)

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Mrsjayy · 15/03/2015 10:59

Aww that's lovely my dd is working and the other is still zedding I'm mumsnetting in bed it's bliss

keepsmiling2015 · 15/03/2015 11:02

Good for you. We make our own happiness by being grateful for the small things in life. Have a great day x

Smoorikins · 15/03/2015 11:22

Fabulous!

Mother's day hasn't been mentioned in my house today either, but I really don't care. I hate all these guilt-trip holidays that seem to either make people gloat on Facebook, or upset them because they don't think that what they received was enough/appropriate. (I realise there is a huge middle ground, but these are the vocal ones)

I could not give a stuff about mother's day. I am a mother every day, I don't need plaudits and recognition on some random day that someone has deemed to be 'the day'.

So well done op, you have EXACTLY the right attitude IMO.

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turquoiseamethyst · 15/03/2015 11:24

It is silly! There's no way to have a perfect mothers day but lots of ways to have a great one!

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Mrsjayy · 15/03/2015 11:28

Tbh when mine were little I found mothers day stressful it was like forced happiness I know that sounds weird but it was how it felt at the time

nachohousekeeper · 15/03/2015 11:31

These should be the only kind of threads allowed about Mother's Day!

Lovely post and a reminder to be happy about the important things.

Have a lovely day.

KittyandTeal · 15/03/2015 11:38

Thank you, I needed that.

I lost my Dd2 at 22 weeks 2 months ago. Dd1 is 2.5yo.

I'm becoming quite bitter at the 'I only got...' Posts here.

I'm desperately trying not to get down today, I am very lucky, I know that. I have a wonderful DH and a beautiful daughter but bloody hell it's annoying reading peoples posts and thinking 'I wish that was the worst worry in my life'.

I needed someone to be grateful for just having wonderful kids rather than the 'stuff'.

As well as having a wonderful DS you have also cheered me up. Thank you x

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turquoiseamethyst · 15/03/2015 11:51

kitty

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annielouise · 15/03/2015 11:53

I got a Happy Mother's Day from my teen and a run down on my positives and a couple of minor negatives . Scored 9.5 out of 10 overall so I'm happy. He apologised for being busy.

annielouise · 15/03/2015 11:54

I meant no card just he said Happy Mother's Day - good enough for me.

Mandatorymongoose · 15/03/2015 15:03

I got a card and socks from DS (2yrs) and I cried because I wasn't expecting anything and he looked so sweet bringing them to me and then opening them for me because all presents in this house are DS's presents

DD didn't get me anything but made a nice post on FB, saying she loved me but also acknowledging and sharing her thoughts for those of her friends who don't have someone to celebrate mother's day with for whatever reason, which made me proud of her.

So, compared to some people I didn't get a lot of material things but I'm very lucky and I'm having a fabulous mother's day.

DrankSangriaInThePark · 15/03/2015 15:05

That's lovely OP, and so are you. And refreshingly normal on a day full of madsters bleating about glittery shit not being as glittery as they wanted it to be.

Honeypot1 · 15/03/2015 15:27

Here, here! all round!

BsshBosh · 15/03/2015 16:07

What a lovely thread! I agree :)

BsshBosh · 15/03/2015 16:09

Kitty.

TooManyMochas · 15/03/2015 16:41

Yes! Neither DH nor I bother our arses with Mother's / Father's Day. I'm bloody lucky to have two mostly lovely little boys and a DH who shows he loves and appreciates me 365 days a year, even if we have our ups and downs. Who gives a fuck about one day.

FoxyVeganJane · 15/03/2015 16:57

Wonderful thread.

I have 4 lovely dc, dh is working in Canada my mum is 10 hours away and my mil is batty and we are having issues (but I still love her because she gave me dh)

My lovely dc laid the table this morning they pored me a glass of wine and filled me a bowl of homemade chocolate truffles at 7:15 am. I tactfully explained I was not ready for wine and chocs yet and was I permitted to have toast, permission was given and all was well.

Cleaned the oven whilst dc played and then I made a roast dinner and a cake. Lovely lunch had, I tidied up then went to relax in the living room and the whole house was trashed by dc. Short and sharp telling off and all was tidied. I then had my wine and chatted to dh who managed to phone home (woohoo)

I took some Imodium and lotradine as I'm celiac and allergic to dairy and brewed some tea, then ate the homemade truffles. Dd made them at brownies with crushed biscuits and enough dairy to sink a battleship. Dd was estatic as I ate the sweets she made. We watched a film Mr Peabody and Sherman.

The dc are now upstairs trashing the house, while I chill a bit. They've pinky promised no mess, so we will see.

In an hour I'm making toast, cheese and apples for dc and then it's bath, story and bed. Then it's monday.

Lovely amazing day.

notsolovely · 15/03/2015 17:23

I had a great day. Got a home made card and hand made bird box (made out of paper) to use as an ornament. My 2 kids have played lovely all day and I have seen my mum and dad. I didn't get a sleep in or even eat breakfast. I am happy. I don't get all the fuss about Mothers day tbh. The kids get more excited than I do.

ConfusedInBath · 15/03/2015 17:24

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BetsyBell · 15/03/2015 17:51

I got a couple of delightful drawings of me being a martial arts badass, a little mother's day videogame programmed for me AND a cup of tea in bed from the DSs. Frickin' Awesome day. For the mothers in mine and DH's life we cooked up a feast between us and the day has been a delight from the outset. I am hugely grateful for all of my family and the life we lead.

I could have complained that actually I haven't had nearly enough sleep and a hangover and perhaps the kids could have waited to give me the stuff and that it's not fair that I cleaned the toilet, emptied bins and did most of the cooking. But you know what? Life is what you make it and it's a hell of a lot more fun if you focus on the positive stuff.

for you all :)

JaceLancs · 15/03/2015 18:14

I got a lovely text from my daughter this morning
My son dusted polished and cleaned bathroom and toilet
No cards or presents - but apparently they are planning on cooking dinner for me
That's more than good enough for me
I went round to see my mum a few days ago with flowers and left her a couple of small presents and card for her to open today as knew I wouldn't be seeing her
She sent me a lovely thank you message this morning and a photo of her flowers which she'd arranged and to show me how they'd opened out prettily
I don't get all the angst and expectations as long as if you care about your mum and show her in some way that should be good enough

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