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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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AIBU to think

15 replies

Royalsighness · 15/03/2015 10:33

That some mumsnet users expectations of Mother's Day are a bit ridiculous? And that being disappointed with your kids best efforts is really really mean?

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MythicalKings · 15/03/2015 10:37

YANBU
A few very precious mothers about.

MrsCosmopilite · 15/03/2015 10:43

YANBU - I was thinking the same. It's a marketing opportunity to guilt-trip people into buying shit they can't afford in an attempt to display affection. Be grateful for what you've got, I say.

Cornettoninja · 15/03/2015 10:45

Yanbu.

Surely if your kids take you for granted and love you you're doing something right?

I might be completely off base here but I thought the whole point of parenting was to provide a rock solid foundation and unconditional love.

Why the hell should a 6 year old give a shit about my daily list of chores? He can say thank you but he won't really comprehend it enough to appreciate it till he's much older.

If I've issues with my dp not pulling his weight I don't expect a child to compensate for that or passively aggressively use Mother's Day as a way to make everyone feel as shit as I do.

MrsCosmopilite · 15/03/2015 10:49

Also, for those who have lost children/cannot have children or have lost their parents, it's a very painful day. Someone whingeing about not getting a bunch of flowers makes them appear very shallow.

msgrinch · 15/03/2015 10:50

yanbu I want to punch two ops already.

Altinkum · 15/03/2015 10:55

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YouTheCat · 15/03/2015 10:57

One of those Mother's day threads is clearly a piss take. I do hope people realise that.

The other one, well, there are no words.

Altinkum · 15/03/2015 10:58

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chickenfuckingpox · 15/03/2015 10:58

Im a new single parent i thought i had it sussed we were going to get me a build a bear and middle child was going to choose tbe middle or recording a message with younger brother to go in middle (he is the most affected so i thought i would make him feel special) so it's sorted right? Nope middle child has chickenpox we can go nowhere get nothing cue 14 year old dashing out for a teddy and reeces pieces no card no fuss and im not throwing a fit about it fgs its nothing in the scheme of things just a day like any other

bionic77 · 15/03/2015 11:03

YANBU - all I can think is the future of Mumsnet is secure - there will be plenty of OPs in the future starting threads about ungrateful DM and MIL, childhoods filled with never being good enough.

LoveVintage · 15/03/2015 11:07

Yup, such a shame. My dses are teenagers now and I remember with such fondness the home made cards and badly made breakfasts.

Today ds1 (15) is pretending he has forgotten. Ds2 gave me a deliciously gangly cuddle and made me a cup of tea.They have both buffered off to do teenager stuff and I am still in bed mumsnetting, and very happy with my lot.

Immovableobject · 15/03/2015 11:42

I'm delighted with my handmade cards, and DH got flowers and chocs for the DCs to surprise me with but I've just spotted the bouquet we are taking to MIL later and it's much bigger - I spy bad-son guilt

MaudeLebowski · 15/03/2015 11:48

YANBU.

Mother's Day is not important. Much less important than your birthday, for example. A card, a token present or something homemade is more than enough.

MaudeLebowski · 15/03/2015 11:50

Why the hell should a 6 year old give a shit about my daily list of chores? He can say thank you but he won't really comprehend it enough to appreciate it till he's much older.

Very true, you don't realise this stuff until you move out. Some stuff you don't realise until you have kids of your own.

Expecting a kid to be overly-grateful-in-a-deep-understanding-type-way for something they have always experienced is wishful thinking.

Fairenuff · 15/03/2015 11:50

There does seems to be a lot of disappointed mothers complaining about the lack of cards, presents and/or flowers.

Also lots of martyrs sighing about having to host/visit family. And having to do double cleaning tomorrow because 'if I don't do it today, no-one else will'.

I think that if you have a family that are pleasant to you all year round, you will have a pleasant, thoughtful mother's day. If not, they aren't going to suddenly change for one day.

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