To feel like I'm the most worthless thing to have ever walked the planet

[sharonthewaspandthewineywall]

I've had to make my own coffee and I'm suffering with a vile sore throat and cold. My 10 year old hasn't even wished me happy Mother's Day and when mentioned simply said 'oh I forgot' and my 8 year old has dragged himself along like Kevin the teenager huffing and puffing the whole way grunted happy Mother's Day and gave me a no arms hug.
I feel so disappointed

Perhaps they don't want to catch the cold?

If they are like this, then is it time to reconfigure your role and ensure they actually appreciate what you DO do?

Perhaps go back to bed and start the day again from scratch? Including briefing the DC that you'd like to be greeted differently next time you get up, if you like.

Would you feel so low if it was just a bog standard Sunday?

I'm sorry you're upset, but please don't let it get out of proportion.

If the kids aren't going to do it, treat yourself - declare yourself off duty and point the in the direction of sandwich stuff if they're hungry. Take yourself to bed with some junk food and paracetamol and mumsnet/watch tv for the day.

My boys have done well this year but only because I had a proper paddy last weekend about how taken advantage of I am and how I bet no-one's even thought about Mother's Day.

You're not worthless but (and I can talk!) this parenting lark is supposed to be unconditional, we have to show them they love us but it doesn't make you worthless if they don't do it back. My dad reckons, when children are horrid to their parents, it's because the parents are doing a great job - the Dc are completely secure in the knowledge that they're loved no matter what

YABU
For goodness sake, get things in proportion. I opened this thread expecting a tale of somebody feeling guilty, because they'd snapped at the kids or somebody with an awful life who was suffering genuine depression.

And then I read that you've got a cold and the children didn't make a fuss of you. Well that's kids. Sometimes they're all over you, with kisses and cuddles and telling you that you're the best mum in the world. The next minute they'll be moaning cos you asked them to tidy their bedroom.

I came home from shopping yesterday and DP rushed to shut the door cos DD had a "surprise" for me that he had to hide. So far this morning, I've hoovered, tidied the house, done the ironing and still have no idea what the "surprise" is as 12yr old dd has forgotten about it. I think she made me a card at guides which she'll give me when she finally remembers that it's Mother's Day. It's just another day. Don't build it up into a big deal and then you won't be disappointed when kids behave like kids.

I made my own coffee. My dp made me a burnt muffin. My 2 year old dd pretended to give me a hug but really she was stealing my mobile to try ring grandma. I'm happy with that

Yabu however colds turn me into a miserable drama queen so I understand. Hope you feel better soon

I don’t have a cold but I feel much the same way. I had to take our cat to the vet’s for the last time yesterday. Teenage DS has Asperger’s Syndrome and always has to be reminded to do the right thing for Mothers and Fathers Day so DH and I each make sure he gets a card and chocs for the other parent. DH and I even had a conversation about Mothers Day last week (about our own mothers)

And this morning – nothing. Bleauurggh.

Want to join me in the corner sulking?

Aww op. I know how much this can sting so you have my sympathy

I hope your day improves and you get well soon

Happy Mother's Day

That's rubbish.

Happy Mothers day
One day I'm sure they'll appreciate what a fab job you do you for them.

Yes its rubbish but they need prompting...they need someone somewhere to do this usually.

Oh - DS has just appeared with a card and a box of chocs. Sulk over.

Honestly though it is the pits when they don't appreciate us in the least, which kids don't, most of the time. Do take care of yourself. You are a lovely Mum and they take that for granted!

Mother's Day treats are learned behaviour. If it isn't modeled to them they don't get why it's important to us. I decided not to get upset at my DS this morning for not making me a cup of tea, card etc. Later he heard me mention if to my mum and went and made me a lovely card.