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AIBU to think that Mother's Day is a time for children to show appreciation to their mums?

40 replies

MummySparkle · 15/03/2015 07:49

OH thinks that it is a day for mothers to spend with their children (effectively a normal day for me)

I know DS and DD are to young to understand the concept. But surely it's up to him to help them.

In my eyes it's a day off from all of the chores that a mother has to do, and just time to spend enjoying the company of her children.

But OH flat-refused to let me have a lie in and won't change any nappies

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CrystalCove · 15/03/2015 07:51

I think Mothers Day sounds the least of your problems really.

Peacocklady · 15/03/2015 07:52

V selfish of him. Make sure you 'treat' him to a full on Father's Day.

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MummySparkle · 15/03/2015 07:53

DD was only a few weeks old on Father's Day. Both DCs gave him cards and I cooked a roast dinner for us all.

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flibbetygibbett · 15/03/2015 07:54

He should be changing his children's nappies and letting you get some sleep when you really need it, regardless of what day it is. If he doesn't normally help you with the kids and let you have the occasional lie in then he's a selfish arse. The fact that he won't even do these things today of all days just adds insult to injury.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 15/03/2015 07:55

Does he ever change nappies? I think Mother's Day is really the least of your problems if that's his attitude

EstRusMum · 15/03/2015 07:55

Agree with Crystal.
For Father's day let him "spend" the day with children. See how he feels about that.
Happy Mother's Day!Flowers

100sanemum · 15/03/2015 07:55

CrystalCove is spot on

TheOddity · 15/03/2015 07:58

Oh I would be publicly shaming him for this. Give his mum and ring to tell her what her son's attitude is and say as he sees it that way, you are sending him to her for the day with the kids.

LindyHemming · 15/03/2015 07:58

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FishWithABicycle · 15/03/2015 07:59

That's a git there you are trying to have a relationship with.

Does he have any redeeming qualities? Cos I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who doesn't take an equal share of the load at the weekends and therefore do at least half the nappies anyway on a normal Sunday, let alone refusing to do anything.

Anyway. Whatever treats (or lack of them) or workload (or lack of it) you get today, gets repeated EXACTLY for him on Father's Day. Get him to agree to that, preferably in writing, and then see where it leads to.

SueChef · 15/03/2015 08:02

Fuck, he sounds like a Prince. Any ' normal' day he should be helping you out more

MsAspreyDiamonds · 15/03/2015 08:03

What an awful attitude, effectively Mothers Day is a chance for him to put his feet up & be pampered by his live in slave?!

Get dressed and go out for breakfast leaving him with kids & time to prepare your surprise.

You need to pull him up on his attitude every single time.

Missda · 15/03/2015 08:03

Erm why doesn't your OH change nappies anyway OP?

MsAspreyDiamonds · 15/03/2015 08:04

Oh and cancel father's day...

wheresthelight · 15/03/2015 08:04

I agree that mother's day is the very least of your problems. is he always such a cock?

BabyGanoush · 15/03/2015 08:14

Sounds mothersday is the least of your worries.

What is with the "no nappychanging"?!

Why do women have children with men like this?! Lack of selfrespect?

HoraceCope · 15/03/2015 08:20

when they dc are older they will understand the concept. i would totally ignore father's day

TheSingingMonkey · 15/03/2015 08:22

There is no such thing as 'helping' with your own children.

OP is he always this selfish? I suggest on Father's Day you leave him to have some quality time with the the DC, and go out.

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MummySparkle · 15/03/2015 08:23

He's put DS through the shower and is getting him dressed. I've sorted DD.

He was going to go downstairs and make a 'nice breakfast for us all' leaving a slightly shitty DS in the shower for me to deal with. I put my foot down.

All I wanted for the day was a lie in, no cooking and no cleaning. He probably hasn't even got a card for the dCs

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notsolovely · 15/03/2015 08:26

I agree with those saying that Mothers Day is the least of your problems. Dh is in bed now, I am up with the youngest. However i wanted to sleep in yesterday, so I am good. However, he is always very involved with the kids whether its mothers day or not. Tell him thats fine and you expect the same on fathers day. He will spend time with the kids and you will relax. He sounds like a cock tbh

Sirzy · 15/03/2015 08:26

Start planning your day out for Father's Day while he has a full day with the children!

notsolovely · 15/03/2015 08:28

Got to say, if dh said he wasn't changing nappies he would get a soiled one pushed in his face. I feel incredibly lucky that my DH knows the kids are ours not mine and does at least his fair share. Then I realise i shouldn't feel lucky, that's how it should be.

Patatas · 15/03/2015 08:30

He doesn't sound very thoughtful op, I hope he redeems himself as the day goes on. Flowers

adventuretime11 · 15/03/2015 08:31

So tell him fathers day is a day is a day to spend with dc so go outat 8am and return at 8pm.

SoupDragon · 15/03/2015 08:31

As a special Mothering Sunday treat I get to take the SmallDragons to a bleak, windswept muddy field so that the oldest two can play rugby and the youngest can complain that she is bored.