in not wanting to spend Mothers' Day with my children OR my Mum?

[Tommy]

and just wanting to sneak off to a cafe with the papers?

One of my best Mother's Days was when DCs were small and rubbish sleepers and DH took me away for the weekend. Lovely. Sneak off, go for it.

Sounds good Tommy. Run now, go!

I'm guessing you have young children as opposed to the slightly older sort who can get on with stuff without you.

I don't know if you have ever seen 'The Middle' - there's a brilliant episode where the family are trying to give them mum the perfect Mother's Day, one day they all go out and leave her to have peace and quiet but they have a brilliant time out together and she's annoyed being left on her her own. So the next year they all stay in together, she sits on the sofa with a magazine, snacks etc and they all squash on there with her and she doesn't like that either. Turns out her ideal day is the children and Dh within sight but all busy and her sitting reading a magazine on her own! Makes sense to me

I'd like that too. :)

Today I have been up since 6 with the dc. Dh took them downstairs buy all I can hear is shouting. Later we will be celebrating dh's birthday which is later this week.

I would LOVE a day of pleasing myself - even if that meant ignoring the rest of the family!

YABU- this isn;t a "tommy" day, this is about your role as a mother. Personally I don't give a shite, but you have to woman up and accept that this is an obligation as a mother to love the fuss.

I think Mother's Day, particularly for younger children, is about them being able to do the whole card & chocolate thing. Antumba's right - it's more about you as a mother than you as an individual, so in that way it's about the children's needs rather than yours but then isn't every day like that????

hmm.... interesting responses.
My DSs are 13, 11 and 8 and have been horrible toe-rags all week.
My mum is very difficult, is currently in hospital (not life threatening or anything) and I have spent the last 3 days running around after her with her complaining when I don't get things quite right, telling me how to wash her clothes blah blah blah and 2 of my siblings haven't visited her at all because "they have colds".
So, I've done the young children mothers day things and I'm afraid when my mum is gone it will be more a case of singing that well-know song form the Wizard of Oz and I don't mean Somewhere over the Rainbow.....

I had the same thought last night! I would love to sneak off to a cafe and drink tea and eat a muffin in peace without the crying and bickering.

But instead I'm in bed waiting for dd to wake up because she's been telling me everyday for the past week how she'll get up early and make me breakfast...it was the last thing she told me before bed too, so I better wait or else there will be tears!

tommy- I totally get it.

I live with my elderly mother and we are not the best of friends. I treat her with respect but we are not close.

I was tempted to ask OH to take the toddler out for a few hours. The baby (8 weeks) will have to stay as she's ebf. Next year I'm having at least a few hours on my own for mother's day.

I'm not seeing my mum either, saw her yesterday at s family lunch and gave her a card and small gift.

although writing that has strangely made me feel slightly better....
Thanks Mumsnet

Go! Now. Before anyone can stop you.

I quite fancy a quiet cafe myself.

mind you I will be doing my own thing Anyway tiday.
My DM has gone away this weekend. DS isnt known for his card buying skills.

Mine are teenagers but due the way I've got time off I've actually taken a break away for a few days with hubby..no children! I'm enjoying a lazy morning..much as I love my children it's the perfect way to spend Mother's Day.

YANBU. DH just asked what I wanted to do today and I said id like him to take DD out so I can have a break! SAHM to a 16 month old so I spend plenty of time with her. Today I want a rest (also 24 weeks pregnant).

Run off to the cafe eating cake all the way.

*So, I've done the young children mothers day things and I'm afraid when my mum is gone it will be more a case of singing that well-know song form the Wizard of Oz and I don't mean Somewhere over the Rainbow.....

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Hahaha that cracked me up!

Run now and don't look back!

Mine are giving me my perfect Mothers Day - they are all having a long lie in / playing on the playstation with ear phones. The peace is blissful....

yanbu!!!

mothers day(imo)= me getting a break from the kids

fathers day= him spending 'special' time with the kids (and giving me extra p&q)

ds1 had a birthday sleepover last night with 2 friends, so I have spent this morning lying on the sofa reading the papers whilst they have told me all about what they have built on minecraft. not a card on bunch of flowers in sight, but a lovely morning !

Sunquhar - I like your style!

San...not sun!

I'd love to do that, but I'd get a panicky text from DH: "What do I doooo???"

I only have ds1 here and he's on the Xbox. Dd and Ds2 have gone to Dd's cricket training, so quiet here. I was woken by my mother ringing!!
Off to work now and then ironing and making dinner, so my peace is about done

I used to go on a long walk, end up a country pub, order a glass of wine and call my dh to come and pick me up. Would have more wine when dh and kids arrived.