AIBU To feel lonely and pissed off

[whatisforteamum]

After a busy week took dd to give her CV in for a job worked 3 long late shifts and waited nervously for dads CT SCAN and Bone scan results which were not ready when he saw consultant and that in itself was upsetting for them.
I have not really mentioned anything to one male colleague who has said some awful and hurtful things about my parents cancers.So all week bottling things up while, worried,im not convinced it will be good news nor is Dad by little things he says.
Havent seen DH due to opposite shifts so i thought im working mothers day which will be v busy i will have a sleep today.
3 hrs later i wake up and we discuss DCS tea.I only ask if he got the hash browns out as he food shops and he comes charging to the kitchen saying get the F* out my way !!(the freezer is rammed full as its small)
AIBU to go to the local supermarket and buy perfume and whatever i like as no one has ever really bothered with me on mothers day and i am struggling a bit.

Couldn't read and run.

YNBU, buy yourself some while you're at it!

Buy yourself some nice perfume and a bottle of bubbly

and chocolates

He sounds charming. I would tell him that your feelings were hurt and also mention to your dc to be honest - if dd is old enough to work she is old enough to buy you a card and wish you a happy day. I know it's a bit of a hallmark holiday but the point is its an opportunity to appreciate you as a mum. Perhaps point be it would be better if this happened in everyday life anyway.

YANBU get yourself some , and too!

You poor thing. Go treat yourself and put yourself first for a change.

Joining you in feeling a bit sad. No cards for me tomorrow, not expecting presents or visits. I know my kids are really strapped for cash but even so....

I have some nice Cava and will have a nice bath and a snuggle with my cats in front of the tv. I hope you have a lovely day.

It isnt mothers day yet?

Tomorrow! :)

YANBU, treat yourself to something, you sound like you need a treat.

The DH didnt do the 1st mothers day then had to be prompted..i only do chocs and cards for fathers day .I had one mothers day off and no one bothered then DH said he asked the kids if they wanted to get me a card and they said no they had their art stuff and didnt want to go back.I ve worked the last 5.
Sorry i was feeling sorry for myself drive out cleared my head and i bought DM flowers as this is the 7th mums day since she was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and chocs for Dh as he has helped alot then he did a wobbler that the dcs took one(he has been moody since his heart attack and temperamental).
I owe myself perfume after all the long 7am wake ups and midnight getting home.
I promise myself i will answer back to the workmate who says your parents will die soon deal with it (arse).
I feel better already ! :) x

Your workmates said what?? What a horrible thing to say. I hope you have some nicer colleagues and have mentioned his vile comment to your boss.

All of my other colleagues are lovely..very young but sweet i dont want to burden them but this guy doesnt want me to get any leeway (i had 1/2 DAY sick last week).My boss was dreadful to me calling me a minger and old lady though he is being ok now dad is ill.I may have to say something to him as this other guy is so cocky and rude im not sure wether to point it out.Sigh rock and hard place springs to mind !!

Is your boss the top of the rung or does he have a superior? I'd be going above him if possible and reporting them both. That sounds like bullying and would be hard enough to deal with in itself without everything else you have on your plate.

Thanks catz to think for 10yrs i had a lovely little life.2 dcs a job nearby in a beautiful place with a considerate boss so i never had anytime off ill really.Now my job is unrecognizable all the people my age have left and 3 of my loved ones are/have been v ill.I have spent so much time working and looking after the kids i dont even have friends my own age in RL huge mistake really..never thought this would happen.

((((hug))))