To ask if you have ever had a frenemy?

[lakeygirl]

I had a frenemy a few years ago. I distanced myself from her, which she didn't like, and it resulted in her having a massive go at me and me telling her never to contact me again.

I thought I was being very selective and careful in my choice of friends since then, but I have realised in the past few months that I seem to have got myself yet another frenemy.

Frenemy 2 seems nice on the surface, and a bit ditzy and scatty, but actually is making more and more cutting remarks, or nasty little stings dressed up as compliments, and it's making me uncomfortable. I have also found that she has said things about me to other friends, and she has also bumped into my teenage DD recently and said that DD could always go to her if I'm not being a nice mum!! Plus she is very draining and talks repeatedly about herself and how busy she is and a has constant non-problems that she wants to talk about all the time.

So, once again I am having to distance myself from a frenemy. I think I attract them as I'm chatty and nice, and they probably see me as an easy target.

Has anyone else had a frenemy and if so how did you ditch them as a friend?

Yes I had one years ago. Others had mentioned that she may not be whiter than white and looking back now there were so many warning signs but I just didn't pick up on them.
She used also used to dress up a put down as a compliment, would be quite cutting towards others and took every opportunity to put down my dh!

She was jealous of our relationship and even went as far to tell him I was cheating on him, of course she denied it but used this to call him a liar and try to create tension between us. She then accused me of slapping her face when I confronted her which there were witnesses to and no such thing happened. She called me a bully and said I was controlling!!
But the funny thing was that when we first became friends she openly admitted that she was a bully at school and kind of seemed proud of the fact!

There were so many instances, i'd be here all day writing them but I slowly but surely started piecing everything together.

I Started distancing myself and hadn't seen her for a while but happened to be on a group night out together. She really surpassed herself this time. She had said something that really wasn't acceptable but managed to twist it and make it look like I had said it then had a go at me for being a bitch!!!
That was it for me it for me, told her never to contact me again and I meant it. She apologised the following day but blamed it on the drink. I never responded to her message and have cut her out completely. It was the best thing I ever did!

Yes Winterwinds, my frenemy said she was a bully at school and seemed quite proud of the fact.