First world problem alert: a friend and I split from our husbands around the same time and she went for a makeover which she loved and I think that she found it validated her in terms of attractiveness...
The photo was in a town about forty minutes away from our own buzzing and lively city.
She put lots of photos on social media and tbh I can see why she loved them but they were not my kind of pics, very bright and didn't really look like her but she was happy.
A few days later I received a voucher from her in the post for the same makeover/photo shoot. She said she thought it would boost my ego like it has hers.
I made lots of grateful noises but inside I knew I didn't want this treatment, so my first mistake was in accepting the gift.
Partially because knowing her she would be angry / hurt / disappointed if I didn't share the pics on fb too.
The other issue is I dont drive and as a working single mum my time is precious to me. On offer with the gift she insisted that she will drive me there and bring me home again (it's a straightforward train ride)
Now I'm aware that I sound like an ingrate, in the meantime since buying me this gift she has done/said lots of inappropriate things in front of my children, we are neighbours and she has turned up at odd times, unannounced. And the children have seen some strange/distressing things for which she has never apologised plus she has a tendency to unnecessarily discipline my smallies in front of me when I have felt it unwarranted and would do myself when required.
I have been distancing myself from her because off his and a few other things about her, drama I just don't want .
Anyway, everytime I see her de asks when I'm going to get the makeover and recently I posted a very natural pic of myself on fb, I rarely wear makeup except the basics and a bit more on nights out. No sooner than I'd posted this pic of myself, looking like me, she pinged me a message 'when spare you going to book that makeover'?
Yesterday I posted a tongue in cheek status re losing a precious bottle of facial oil, it was a Friday 13th themed joke.
She posted a reply saying 'when are you going to book that treat I bought you,' I replied saying its a generous gift but too much planning involved and takes a lot of time out of my free time, this was a public post and really, for some reason pissed me off. She hasnt replied.
I had been thinknig id get around to it but she has kind of taken any pleasure out of it before I even start.
I'd also been tempted to offer it to s friend who's doing charity auctions but thought that might be a bit rude, now I'm so tempted just to give it back to her but this woman is a ball of fury and ranting, ragging all our mutual friends into any drama. She identifies as an 'alpha female' and I so don't identify myself that way. I'm so tempted to just pop it through her letterbox but I cannot deal with the fall out.
When we first became friends I didn't realise what kind of person she is, I thought she was a hit overbearing but fun and we bonded over our mutual marital break ups but know I just don't want to be around her.
Airbus to feel weird about this gift and what would you do in my shoes? People I've spoken too ill are divided on this, some see it as a lovely treat and others see it as a massive infringement.