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AIBU?

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to tell my sister to stfu as she complains about wanting maternity leave but not a dc

19 replies

sPJPPp · 13/03/2015 06:40

She was going on about its unfair , worlds over populated and that she'd like 9 months off to travel. Aibu to just tell her to stfu!

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needaholidaynow · 13/03/2015 07:00

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Only1scoop · 13/03/2015 07:02

Just tell her to apply for unpaid leave if she's so desperate to have it....

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Nolim · 13/03/2015 07:03

Omg. Yanbu.

Paintedpinksapphires · 13/03/2015 07:05

Tell her to take 9 months off then. It'll cost about the same as having a child does in the first year or so I's think.

ShadowStone · 13/03/2015 07:11

YANBU.

One of my colleagues managed to get an unpaid sabbatical (somewhere between 6 - 9 months IIRC) to go travelling around the world. Maybe your sister should ask for one of those instead.

TheSolitaryWanderer · 13/03/2015 07:12

That's not maternity leave, that's a gap year. Or a Sabbatical. Or a very long holiday.
All of which are possible, but if she wants paying for the time, she's going to have to come up with something worthwhile that she will achieve during that time and then look around for funding.
Hands up who wouldn't want 9 months paid to go travelling.

base9 · 13/03/2015 07:19

6 months of unpaid leave would be significantly cheaper than having a child. Tell her to stop whinging and do it. You're not stopping her.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 13/03/2015 07:22

YANBU at all.
Agree that she can just take unpaid leave if she's that desperate.
Jeez.

ginmakesitallok · 13/03/2015 07:25

I've got a work colleague like this who was complaining that as a child free single woman she never had a chance to use carers leave/parental leave etc and it was unfair. I asked her if what she meant was that she was lucky as she never needed to use carers leave etc as she didn't have any dependants and pointed out how lucky she was that she was able to use her al to go off on exotic holidays rather than to run round after children.

Rollermum · 13/03/2015 07:27

Oh yeah because it's just nine months sitting around chilling. Remind her of this of she ever does have a baby. YANBU!

cartoonsaveme · 13/03/2015 07:40

Tell her yes it's called a sabbatical. Unpaid but you can do what the he'll you like for 9 months without a baby in tow.bliss

BathtimeFunkster · 13/03/2015 07:41

I'd love a couple of days off to go partying, it's unfair that just because all my immediate family members are alive I can't take it as bereavement leave.

I also quite fancy several months off to oversee a renovation project on my house, but annoyingly I don't have a serious illness and can't take it as sick leave.

I could really do with a couple of days off a month to sleep in and rest, but annoyingly I can't take study leave without doing some kind of course.

Your sister is being an unbelievable dick.

Aridane · 13/03/2015 07:43

[Not the point of the thread - but I wish I could get an unpaid sabbatical and return to my job. Can't just hand in notice and do this as jobs are difficult to come by in my sector]

Sparklingbrook · 13/03/2015 07:46

Just ignore her. If she wants to take a sabbatical that's fine.

Aussiemum78 · 13/03/2015 07:47

You can tell her to fuck off with my sister, who is childless but has an opinion on what school is suitable for Dd. ie not the one we decided on, where dd is very happy.

Apparently people go private because it's posh, it's no better than the local school and I could spend that money on holidays for myself instead. wtf

FayKorgasm · 13/03/2015 07:51

Yes we should bring this in for her. Let her go off travelling and get paid for it. Except she has to bring an alarm that she has to work out how to turn off everytime it goes off,be leaking from her breasts and vagina,carry an extra stone of weight and have random people coming up and asking annoying questions. Oh and she will have most of whats shes paid taken off her because she needs to support the ever ringing alarm.

caker · 13/03/2015 07:53

Twice I've taken a year off work to pursue an interest (pre DC). I hadn't taken a gap year so just did it later in life!

gincamelbak · 13/03/2015 08:15

Tell her she sounds totally reasonable. As long as all of her annual leave for the next five years isspent sittingIin the cafcafé of a soft play centre. With cold coffee and a half eaten sandwich (that she didn't choose and doesn't like) to sustain her.

And evenings for the next five years are spent driving backwards and forwards from schools/church halls/sports halls.

Then sneeze in her face.

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