To not worry if my child's birthday was at Christmas

[SaltySeaBird]

Me and DH have been TTC number two for 20 months.

Last year we took a break from trying end March / early April as we didn't want a due date that fell Christmas week.

Christmas is a really busy time for us (lots of family and work related stuff) and we know that I'm likely to be hospitalised at the end of any pregnancy - I have several known complications to contend with.

We are due to hopefully start fertility treatment in May and DH thinks it would be sensible to take a break between now and then (it only means missing one cycle).

I think we should carry on and if it happens (unlikely) then the fact it would be a Christmas baby doesn't matter at all. He says we need a mental break and we both agreed previously that it's not an ideal time of year but ultimately he'll let me make the decision.

So AIBU to say a Christmas birthday / baby is no problem?

DS2 was due on Christmas Day, he ended up 11 days late and to be entirely honest I didn't think twice about due dates being an issue, we were trying for a baby and fell pregnant when the time was right. If your DH needs a break, though, I'd take a break. It can be hard going for both of you from what I've seen of friends undergoing fertility treatment, put your relationship first, always.x

To be honest I'd just love to be expecting a baby at all! The road to parenthood hasn't and doesn't continue to be an easy one!

Dd's bday is christmas eve. It does add to the hecticness, but we were just so pleased to have conceived, we didn't give the dates a second thought. Good luck op x

My birthday is Boxing Day & I have always loved it, all the family together & loads of festivities. Never seemed to bother my mum, if it did she hid it well!

My children were born on 14th and 23rd December.
I wouldn't have chosen it but it's never really been a problem so far.

My children are 31st dec and jan 4th babies.

I didn't plan it that way, they were both premature. Bloody impatient children.

The first thing I can say about birthdays at the time of year is no-one wants to party when it matters ( ie, younger than 16)

The send is ... Think of the expense.. Seriously...££££££££££

Jan and Feb are long hard months in the Methe household.

Ds1 was due Christmas week. He came a couple of days early, and we were in hospital several days. It was a rather surreal time.

He's still young, but at the moment finds it exciting that his birthday and Christmas fall together.

In terms of pregnancy, I preferred a winter baby to my spring one. By the time I felt like a capable human again, it was getting to spring, with my spring baby, I wasted half the summer.

DS1 was born on Boxing Day, it's been fine. He has a half birthday in June - that's when he used to have a party with his friends when he was little. I did have relatives buying him one present for Christmas and birthday - not huge expensive ones, just normal ones. I had a quiet word with the close ones and said that I thought it was unfair because if his birthday was any other time he'd receive two separate presents. It may sound a bit grabby, but I did feel quite strongly that his birthday should be recognised as a separate day and not lumped in with Christmas. We always made sure the birthday presents were wrapped in birthday paper and not Christmas paper.