To not let whether this effect my decision

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I wanted to name change for this but can't remember my password... And am a little while past caring anyway.
ExP split with his GF of 3/4 months, he claimed he wanted his family back, I slept with him. Up shot is contraception failed and I'm pregnant. I found out after I'd acknowledged the whole fuckwittery of the situation and started counselling. Anyway, I don't think I can face an abortion so will probably go ahead with the pregnancy unless there's a medical reason not to. ExP wants me to abort, which makes sense and I sympathise.
Went for a scan yesterday, informed ExP in the eve of how many weeks they estimated and that they found cysts on an ovary they want to keep an eye on. He stormed out. Text me later to say exGF was also pregnant, he found out at the wkend, told her about me and now she's going to abort. I did say that I was sorry for the situation but it wouldn't influence my decision.
I'm not even entirely sure if I believe him.
I feel like I'm living in a soap opera.

Ignore him.
Do what the right thing for you is.

Do you have other DCs with him? How are you with local support, friends/family etc.

So he's trying to guilt trip you into a termination by saying his gf will terminate if you don't? What a twat. It's his mess, and he had to put up with whatever you and the gf decide. Independently.

Ignore him and do what's best for you.

If he was prepared to handle the consequences he should darn well have taken better care. If it is true then both of you?!

Yes we already have DC. No not together and definitely not getting back together, he's a nightmare to deal with tbh and it takes too much away from the DC, plus it's a one way Street to misery. I started the counselling to help build boundaries and move on and I still plan to do that. I do feel sorry for him though, it's hard not to. But he does also reeeaaally like to play the victim, whatever anyone else is coping with his situation always has to be worse. He's pretty messed up really, i really wish he'd go to counselling. I want to be kind but I don't want to join in their pity party, I'm fairly stressed myself!
My DM is very supportive.

Gf's decision has absolutely no bearing on yours. Ex is a twat (but you probably know that).

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Thanks attheend I'm really trying to stay positive and get on with it, it's such a ridiculous situation it doesn't quite seem real.

OP, try not to get sucked into his drama and feelings as far as possible, and use your counselling as a space to decide what is best not just for you but for your existing children, bearing in mind that it is going to be very impossible to remove this man completely from your life if you go ahead with the pregnancy.
It's a crap situation, and there may be no good outcome, just the least worst one.

Thanks all for your kind words. I've been strangely calm about it since he told me but today I suddenly feel really really angry!

Good. Sometimes you need to be really really angry!

Your ex is manipulative twat.

He's trying to manipulate you so he gets the result he wants... I wouldn't feel sorry for someone like that!

Congratulations on your baby! i hope all goes well!!

What a lucky baby who's going to be born to such a strong mama. You sound amazing. It sounds like the counselling is going great but for what it's worth I think you're doing the right thing by ignoring his/their drama and doing what's right for you and your own DC. Move on and look forward to a great future. Who knows what it holds, but it's not him.