To put a nappy on over ds's pants when we go out or when he naps?

[Ineedacleaningfairy]

Ds is just 2, we were not planning on attempting potty training until the summer but I bought some pants in the sale to use when we start. Ds found the pants and took his nappy off and only wants to wear pants.

This is fine at home, he's doing quite well with his potty but I don't think he's ready for pants only when we go out or at bedtime/naptime. He usually wakes with a dry nappy but I don't want to risk wee in the bed.

We compromised and I put a nappy over his pants, aibu to do so? Should I just deal with the mess even when we go out and in bed.... Should I just hide all the pants and say the pants fairies took them away and they'll bring them back in the summer!

He's telling you he's ready - mine did this - I never had to 'train' them - they did it themselves

Bed time I waited a bit longer - we used pull up pants so they where pant like but out and about - spare clothes and bed mats on the car seat - job done

let him wear pants

Toilet training from my experience is a process. I agree with Ghosty that he sounds ready for it but you just move through the process at your and his own pace. We used pull ups without pants for trips out for a couple of weeks and when we realised he was not wetting himself we stopped. We used pull ups at night the same until about a month later he had not wet one. However our little man has still not mastered poos and never tells us he needs the toilet. Those are my next targets.

by 2 he is fully able to understand, "bedtimes are really hard as you are fast asleep so might miss the time to go, lets keep using nappies in bed.
And if you keep having dry nappies in the mornings we will think again."

and also for long journies "we may not be able to get to a loo quickly so lets use nappies for the odd trip".

Unless my child was a child genius of course.

My little girl was the same at about 20 months but still put nappy on at nap time and bed time and long journeys. We'd had the potty out and around for a few months so she knew what it was for but one day she just said no to her nappy and we've never looked back only had one accident out and about in nearly a year, she's actually much more likely to have an accident at home but still rare.
I'd make it clear to him that he can have pants on but if he doesn't tell you when he needs to go and has an accident then he will have to wear nappies again.
Good luck, all sounds promising. If it doesn't work nothing lost but would definitely use nappy at bed and nap time. We call them sleep nappies.

I would say follow your son's lead. It's great that he's doing so well at home in pants. I think you should take the plunge and go pants only when out and about. DS was 2.4 when he potty trained. He was still in bedtime pull-ups for about 6 months after, because night time dryness was hit and miss. But that's really common. A lot of children take much longer to be dry at night than in the daytime.

I didn't put DS in nappies or pull-ups during the day because I felt like this would confuse him. He learnt that the potty and toilet were for wees/poos and I thought putting him in nappies while out would confuse this and he might have felt like he could go in his nappy rather than tell me he needed the toilet IYSWIM. So once he was in pants that was that. I just brought spare clothes, wipes and an empty carrier bag with me when we went out. Then I could put his wet clothes in the bag if we had an accident.

I wouldn't when you go out, but I would for naps or long journeys

My DS trained at 21 months and understood then that nappies are for bedtime when I told him. I do put him in pjs for long journeys though regardless of the time of day as he only accepts a nappy when in them...

Thanks for the advice! I'll remember to pack a plastic bag and change of clothes, I'm really pleased that he's showing enthusiasm but I wish it was summer!

Let him wear pants during the day and either put a waterproof sheet on his bed or get some pull ups and call them 'special pants'. If his nappy is usually dry in the morning then he's ready for nighttime training anyway. I got a few waterproof sheets for my dcs so there's no worry about ruining the mattress, a good thing as ds still has the odd nighttime accident at 5.

He's telling you he's ready and putting him off now could mean he won't take to it in the summer. Mine were 3 before they were ready to potty train and I wish they'd been ready earlier but from experience I know it's better to wait until they're ready. There's two months between dd and dniece and sil decided to train dniece at 2.5 while I waited till dd was ready at just over 3, dd was dry within a week while dniece was still having at least one accident a day at 3.5.

DS was potty trained at 23 months during the day but only recently at 2 1/2 have we attempted night times without big boy pyjama pants (pull ups). We have only had one nighttime accident so far touches wood

As for out and about accidents, just make sure you have a change of clothes with you and a bag for wet clothes.

IKEA do brilliant waterproof sheets - buy two of these and layer them with sheets (so if he has an accident in the night you can just strip off one top sheet and waterproof, dump them to sort in the morning, and he can get back into bed immediately)

I wouldn't make him go "backwards" - if he's ready to go, he's ready

I have with dd when she was toilet training, why make more work for yourself. He will still have his pants on, but the added protection of not being all wet and soiled when he wakes up and the sheets and mattress too. It made no difference to dd ability to potty train at all.