To think DH should set up online so we can keep in touch while he's abroad?

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DH is currently in India wafh. He keeps telling me how fab it all is & how he's filmed his journey into work etc etc. I have set up a DropBox account & shared it with him so he can upload & then the DSs & I can share. He keeps making excuses why he can't do it & has also said he can't use Skype, fb or anything else due to his work phone not supporting it (he has his personal phone with him too, so he can use that?). How come a gap year student can manage it & he can't? Ironically he's over there delivering courses on software testing & he's been an IT consultant all his life!

He may be away for as much as another month & while I'd have agreed 20 years ago that it wasn't possible, surely he can sort something in the 21st Century?

Fair enough, OP. I read it differently. I hope your husband wakes up to himself and finds a way - whatever way - to contact you, it's really not ok.

Id be tempted to hold off on contact etc andd just see how long he can go before he can be bothered to interact with his family.

Saying he can't do it is complete and utter bollocks. There are always ways around time difference and technical probelms

Sounds like you are NOT ok with him not wanting to ? Or is it no big deal ?

Is he away with colleagues or on his own ? Are you suspicious ?

Sounds odd to me. Work in IT as does DH and we are fully comms at all times despite us both travelling internationally a lot.

We use Skype, FaceTime and Dropbox loads and have never had an issue.

Sounds like bollocks to me.

I managed from China without any 5* WiFi either. Staying in shitholes. He doesn't want to. Which is fine if it's fine with you but saying he can't is

I travel quite a lot for work and tbh I dont usually have the time or the inclination for more than occasional calls - or maybe FaceTime with the kids if the hotel wifi is up to it (even in good hotels the speeds can be rubbish). Sometimes neither is possible - did a trip to zimbabwe last year where we didn't even have a mobile signal most of the time (if the generators aren't working neither are the phone masts).

Work would be very unimpressed at me using my work mobile from abroad to share personal videos. I wouldn't even consider it.

I find that when travelling for work your days are often so full that it can be difficult to find 5 mins to call home let alone spend hours uploading videos that your kids can watch after you get home. And tbh my experience is that the children are generally not that bothered about communicating with me when I'm away - often when I ring they are too busy doing something else, or just don't have a great deal to say.

My ex was like this when he went to work abroad. Reason turned out to be the mail-order bride dollybird he was shacked up with.

Lots of food for thought. Most of which I'd be OK with, but he is currently having a free weekend - had a Swedish massage this morning and spent some time lazing on a sun lounger. Tomorrow he's off on a tour round local Hindu temples. That's fine with me as he has had a very tough week.

Meanwhile, he seems to have the uncanny knack of calling me [he has his personal phone as well as his work one, so he uses that to call me] right when I'm in the middle of trying to get stuff out of the oven; send children home; stop the dog barking; today having police round due to an alleged incident involving my DS3s friend; ensuring I know where all my DSs are; etc - the usual looking after a busy family stuff really. He will not accept that I'm in the middle of a frantic time and when I say I'll call him back in 5 mins, once I've found somewhere quiet to spend time listening to him and he carries on talking away and gets huffy if I say I really can't talk and can he just wait 5 minutes? I suggested to him today that when he phones, if I can't speak at that very second, then would he please just accept that and wait for me to call him when I'm free. It won't take long and at least I know he's going to be around when I do call him back.

As for the dropbox issue, well I have set it all up and posted some vid's of the kids for him to see, but so far he hasn't shown any interest in looking at it. If he chooses not to, that's his lookout. I've done my bit. He's away all next week too, so I'll just have to wait until he comes home and hope he can spare some time before he goes away again [this time back to his usual wafh in N England so at least no time difference, which I know is pretty hard when in India].