To not want my 8 YO to lock the bathroom door?

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Ok he is my first born, and Im a natural born worrier, so sometimes I don't know when normal rational parenting starts and over worrying begins. It doesn't happen often thankfully, but occasionally I have to step back and ask myself if Im being a bit or a worrying nob.

So my 8 year old just got in the bath, I went to see him and tell him to get a move on if he wanted to watch his programme but the door was locked.

The door is a super old and heavy with a big bolt. In an emergency Id break bones trying to get in and still fail.

I worry about him slipping and falling. Banging his head or something. He is intellectual sound, but his balance is quite bad (currently waiting for an assessment for dyspraxia).

WIBU to ask him not the lock the door when he bathes? (Obviously poos and sees is fine) I worry about a clumsy him and a slippy bath.

YANBU.

I don't think bathroom doors should be locked when anyone is having a bath - child or adult.

YANBU; I still bath mine

Perhaps ask him not to lock the door, but make sure he knows you won't be going in while he's in there anymore you'll call to check if he's ok but only go in if he doesn't answer.
He's just at an age where he wants some privacy.

Tricky one. I think YANBU to ask him as long as you explain it's a safety thing (though avoid the "clumsy him" bit obv!) and faithfully promise you will always knock and not come in unless he says ok.

Any chance you can replace the lock with one of those ones that undoes from the outside? Possibly not an option if it's an unusual and v old door though.

I agree with asking him not to lock it, but promise no-one will go in unless asked.

My dd started wanting much more privacy at aged 8 or so. In fact, at aged 10 she has a lock on the inside of her bedroom to stop her little brother just marching in. She doesn't often use it but she's grateful if it.

Maybe I'm the minority I dont remember my mum bathing me at 8. I would of locked the door at that age. In fact I remember being quite disgruntled while staying at an aunts she asked me to keep the door unlocked at that age when I was allowed to lock it at home.

I think thats fair enough.

My then 3yo locked the bathroom door a few years ago and it stuck. There was no opening it. I had to take a hammer to it and put a massive hole in the door to get him out. Door was ruined but at least i got in. If it had been a heavy door we'd have been screwed. Now, no-one locks the door, not even me. We all (me, ds1(9) and ds2(5)) know that if the door is shut it is in use and you dont come in. It has worked for us for 2 years now.

Easily solved, ask him not to lock the door and promise not to walk in when he's in there. Then make sure you don't ever walk in when he's in there.

No probably not mini. Plus I rent, I try not to rock the boat with stuff like that.

But Im glad to hear IABU, I won't tell him he is clumsy though bless his clumsy little butt. Gets it from me unfortunately.

That's what I suggested to him but he said I was BU smaller. He was just perplexed as to how I thought he could slip/fall/knock himself out/drown.

I just wanted to add that both my dcs aged 10 and 7 bath themselves now. Dd10 has a shower and sorts herself out, and ds7 plays a bit with flannels then I come in at the end to wash his hair and check he's washed!

We don't have a lock on ours, just a hangy sign on the outside saying 'vacant' and 'engaged'

Oh I love that idea highway. As my three year old deliberately goes in and locks it. But can't unlock it .

The lock on our bathroom door is the sort that can be quickly and easily opened from the outside with a coin. So fine for an 8yo to lock. But I'm not sure I'd be happy for my DC to lock a door like yours.

YANBU

I fell over in the shower aged about 11 and landed over the side of the bath on my stomach and totally winded myself. Terrifying. Mum tried to come and rescue me but i'd locked the door so I just lay on the floor groaning till I could breathe

I never locked the door again. Still don't like to now unless I have to in a strange house/where someone might come in.

I wouldn't be comfortable with a locked door. I had an accident in the bathroom as an adult, I had given blood that day, took a hot bath and passed out presumably as I was getting out, hitting my head. I had no memory of it and woke up to find my DH had called an ambulance as he couldn't get me to wake. No way would I let my kids lock the door.

this one in fact it saves a lot of hassle, don't need to worry about dd locking herself in and don't have to worry about being disturbed when we've got guests.

I really love that idea. Im definitely going with that. Thanks for the suggestion!