to think mother's day is NOT a big deal?

[Totality22]

Am I the only one who is completely underwhelmed about it all?

I have 2 young dc - Am I unusual for not expecting OH to sort something out for me?

I adore my mum and she'll get a card but I probably won't even see her on the day. She has never made a big deal out of mother's day.

I keep seeing threads popping up and the angst / stress makes me even though glad I am nonplussed about it but I am curious to wonder if I am the only person to feel this way.

We don't make a big deal of it here - I have invited my mother (and father) over for a meal but we quite often do that at weekends.

Can't bear all the angst and drama on some of the threads about Mother's Day - but I am a bit like that about any celebration that turns into a competition to see who gets the most attention/best presents .

I dont expect anything either, but I would be upset, if DH was taking my DC to Mil, taking her a card, flowers and chocs and leaving me with nothing not even the DC, Yes that would piss me off.

I also find it odd how proud some people seem to be of not celebrating anything, not valetines, bdays no big deal, Christmas non plussed.

There are many miserable days thrust on us by life, and therefore many miserable dates thrust on us, usually dates of death.

What is wrong with celebrating and having fun

.

Not proud Alpacino....just not a biggee

I've not been a fan ever since my mom died. It just makes me sad. And, it's not until the first Sunday in May here, so all the Mother's Day threads are confusing.

I wish I could be as 'zen' as you are. I feel quite hurt when my DH forgets and he always forgets despite several reminders, suggestions etc.

I could put up with the fact that my DH forgets to get me things on my birthday/xmas/valentines day/anniversary/mother's day (dc too young to help) if it were not for the fact that he always says "I don't like 'enforced' days for things, I like to be spontaneous and give romantic gestures at other times of the year, not when I'm told to."

I then wait 364 days for this spontaneous gift, bunch of flowers etc that NEVER APPEARS!

YANBU. My mum's dead and I can't be doing with it

Sorry to those of you who have lost your mum's or don't have her around for whatever reason.

This isn't a thread about not liking our mum's, I know I am incredibly lucky to have mine and I hope she knows this everyday.

I just hate "hallmark holidays"

Not a particularly big deal for me either, but it is for others so why piss on their parade

Yanbu.
The hand wringing and melodrama over it all. Competing with the mil. Just daft.

I'm VU then I'm 7 1/2 months pregnant with our first baby and I felt a little bit sad when my partner said he wasn't going to get me a card or anything. I know that's stupid.

I'll go and see my mum, she does like to feel appreciated and her own mum died around Mother's Day 11 years ago. There's no real reason why we have to do it on this particular date, but it's nice to be reminded to make a special effort occasionally.

Church or Hallmark. I honestly can't decide which one is worse.
Quote of the day!

nah, Elle, you're not. It's absolutely fine to want a fuss and it's absolutely fine to not give a shit. You're not stupid.

So not fussed here either. I will give my mum a card and the kids might get me one, not bothered either way. We don't make a big deal if Mother's Day, Father's Day, valentines or even give gifts for Xmas but I take my birthday very seriously

The little things can be sweet - a home-made card brought home from school and maybe hidden until the day, a flower in church, a first attempt at breakfast in bed.

But like so many things it's got too big and this means firstly a lot of angst about trying to keep everyone happy, and worse distress to those who have lost Mothers or DC

I'm sure it used to be more about actual children giving a little something to their own mother, helped by the DP, teachers, church, or club leaders. And when did it become granny's day? That P's me off a bit too. AIBU? Probably yes!

It is a big deal to me personally. Ever since I was tiny we have gone to church with my grandmother, the school children sing and give out daffodils then we go over to the hall for tea/coffee while the older children of the parish amuse the younger ones then we used to go out for the day as a family, some of my happiest memories are of mothers day, even when i was one of the children getting the picnic ready/waiting on mum and Nanna.

Not so excited about it this year though as we buried my grandmother yesterday so it will be a day of watching my poor mum trying to hold it together for my much younger siblings (there are a lot of us, the youngest is 10)