AIBU to have never felt judged as a single parent?

[TheDetective]

I'm a single parent for the second time.

I've also been a teenage parent.

Thinking back over the years, I can honestly say I have never felt judged once by anyone. Perhaps this is just me? Or maybe I'm too thick skinned. I'm not sure .

Have other single mums never felt judged for their position? Or am I just lucky?!

If anything, I've always felt judged in a positive light, as in look how strong you are etc.

So, AIBU to have never felt judged in this way?!

If you want to feel judged, I've had enough for a few people and don't mind sharing it around! Wish I could!!

I've never been a single mum but don't judge those who are. I know plenty of idiots who've been brought up in two parent families and fantastic people who've been raised solely by their mothers.

Come get on buses near me, you get it all if you look young and have a child.

People don't think twice about asking if you know the dad.

I work with single, teenaged Mums and I can say that you've maybe been lucky. Having said that; as an old, married Mum I also get judged. Maybe you just have very thick hide.

People don't think twice about asking if you know the dad.

Surely not strangers?

I also have to add - I do look young. I'm 30, but very easily pass as early 20's.

I have a 13 year old. When I tell people that I have never had a single reply that hasn't been 'wow, you don't look old enough to have a xyz year old'. Never. Any. Different!

Fuckit I used the bus quite a bit the last time I was on maternity leave - just because it was easier for going to town with the pram than waking a baby lifting them in and out of cars etc. I never noticed any judging or looks then at all either!

Sometimes I wonder if my face just says 'fuck off'. Sometimes I think it does .

I've felt judged by work colleagues more than strangers.

Because not everyone marries before children nowadays a lack of wedding ring doesn't scream "single mum" to randoms on buses etc so you really can't guess a woman's marital status just because she's alone with her dcs in public

You've obviously never read the Daily Mail.

I haven't, but I'm older, middle class and work full time.

People who know me wouldn't judge me. People who don't know me presume my husband is somewhere on the scene, usually.

hardly unusual nowadays to be single parent, is it? I'm always puzzled as to how and when people are supposedly judged. When you're wandering round Tesco do people somehow know there's no father sat at home?

I'm a divorced mum - is that the same? I've never felt judged being on my own with small children either, except for positive comments like "I don't know how you do it/ you're incredible!" etc I love being on my own though (got out of a terrible marriage) so maybe that has something to do with it?

I've never felt judged in rl, but I'm older so presumably society thinks I'm acceptable. I've ticked off a cashier for passing comment on a young mum though.

I do feel judged (and ignored?) by the government and certain areas of the media

I am a single parent to a 13 year old,am early thirties but look younger and when was small I felt I was often judged. Luckily now it happens less often though I still get stupid comments.

I've only ever had supportive comments about bringing DD up alone, the only negative comments have been directed at her no contact 'father' if I have explained the situation.

The majority of the feedback I get is positive, but then I'm very open about my past so people who know me are very aware that DD would be far worse off if I hadn't left her father. I went through a lot to keep her safe when she was very young and I don't think the admiration has worn off yet!

I've had a couple of superior comments, but those are about how I parent rather than the fact that I'm a single parent. And I'm far too thick skinned for them to bother me.