To think that some people just want all their friends to be their lackies?

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And they just basically exhaust all their "favours" from one friend and then ditch them for another?

I have a colleague who does this; she has never particularly tried to befriend me as she probably knows that I wouldn't do all her dirty work for her, but it is interesting to watch her work her way through other employees, usually pouncing when on them when they're new. Said new friend will then be her servant for a few weeks, making coffee for her, going out and getting her lunch, and being at her beck and call, and then if they don't do as she says she dumps them and makes a new friend.

I also have come across a mum from DS's year at school who also moves from friend to friend, wanting constant favours such as taking her child to parties, collecting her child from school etc, and again dumps them when they can no longer meet her needs.

I get that these people are just users, but I can't understand how they can just move from friend to friend like that. Surely they have no proper friendships in their lives if every friendship is based on them using them?

I know one just like that and and am regretting not warning a lovely lady who is being used in a ridiculous way as unpaid childcare.

This user goes from person to person around the playground. She asked me in a professional capacity and wouldn't touch her with a barge pole. Would be a bad payer.

There's always one.

I think it is a good rule to go with your gut feeling. When I am asked to do something for someone else, I ask myself, do I want to do this? If the answer is NO, then I don't do it.

I am the same hole and TBH I don't tend to be approached much by using types, probably because they realise I will say no.

I know someone like this, and bizarrely, she thinks she's always the victim.

The only reason for acceding to a request that is in essence unreasonable, is lack of self esteem.
When you lack self esteem you think because you have been asked, then you have to do whatever it is for the other person, or you won't be liked.

It doesn't really work with users as they will see you as a soft touch. Which is what you are really.

Remember the kids who were popular at school? It wasn't sometimes the nicest but it was the most congruent.
People who are confidant can say NO and funnily enough are respected for it.
The sweet pushover gains no-ones respect.