Advanced warning – this is a bit of a rant. I am a SAHM and my DH works very long hours, but not weekends. I therefore do all the childcare and housework for a 5 YO and very active 2 YO. I also run a small business from home.
Generally DH is very tired at the weekends and doesn't help with DCs or housework. DH says he is not comfortable taking the DCs out on his own as the toddler is pretty boisterous.We have no relatives close so I rarely have a break from childcare. I hardly ever go out in the eve.
This weekend one of DH's friends came to stay. I tidied up before he came, took the DCs out to get the weekly shop, cooked all the meals, put out snacks, did the washing up, made up the spare bed, looked after the DCS and made a picnic for the Sunday as we were planning a walk. All the time they sat on their backsides drinking beer or tinkered with DH's car.
After the walk we went for a drink at local pub where DH kept directing me to keep the toddler in check (but made no effort to look after the toddler himself). At one point I was looking away talking to the DCs and DH threw a packet of crisps (the ones in the heavier brown packaging) at me from across the bar. It hit me on the head and I felt so startled and humiliated. A woman at the next table gave me a really pitying look. DH thought it was hilarious.
After the friend had gone DH didn't thank me for looking after him or offer to help with the DCs, he announced he was tired and left me to tidy away the glasses, strip the bed and do the clearing up.
I feel like such a doormat and told DH l am utterly p*ssed off and feel completely taken for granted. He said IWBU as I didn't have to look after them all weekend and they would have helped if I asked. I think it should have been blindingly obvious and I shouldn't have to ask. What do you think - AUBU?