to miss financial independence now I'm a sahm?

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Since I've had to stop work due to a house move and child care being unaffordable, I'm reliant on my husband for the majority of my money. He is as generous as he can afford to be, but can't help making remarks about almost anything I buy, from the food shops to clothes (only second hand). I appreciate why he is like this (he has a phobia about debt) but I really miss having my own money. Anyone else feel like this?

fly the saying 'When poverty walks in the door, loves flies out of the window' definitely applies to you!!

Hope you get a job soon .

Fly

That isn't nice my love, I do hope you find a job and ltb, if you want to.

'I've just been made redundant ....my DH is taking great delight in my poverty , he places no value on childcare or housework ( well what else would I do with my day !) I'm about £60 away from begging and I hate it , I've had plenty of interviews and I'm applying for jobs everyday so I am trying .... It has really made me think about my marriage .. Where do u get those caring and sharing husbands from ??

When I get a job and my bank balance and confidence is restored I might just LTB !'

Might? Why would you stay with such an utter cunt?

Where did I meet DH? I would not for a single second stay with a person who put on value on the work that goes into life, any of it. Dumpity dump.

Would never marry a person who did the 'my' money 'your' money.

When I did the old 50/50, it was with flatmates. I didn't fuck them, have their babies or do their laundry on top of that.

I'm coming up to 8 years as a sahm, NEVER in that whole time has my DH 'commented' on what/how I spend 'his'money, quite simply because he doesn't see it as his money. It sounds like your husband places very little value on the work you so within the home/childcare etc, that's your major issue and one that needs sorting out. Don't just put up with it, place some value on yourself and your contribution even if they aren't financial. Oh and tell your husband to keep his sarcastic wanktastic comments to his fucking self.

Fly - how sad.
Definitely ltb. There are nice men out there who treat you as their equal and are happy to share.

I know we have all derailed the OP thread

but Fly please post in relationships if you need support.
We haven't got amazing dh's that's how it should be. x