To ask DH to book his annual leave soon?

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I would like to book our summer holiday, as we want to go away to Scotland for a week or so (to visit my family, as the kids haven't seen their GPs for a very long time) with the dog and need to book somewhere soon, as places are already booked for the weeks we want to go, esp for places that take dogs.

Trouble is, he won't book his A/L though I have already booked mine and emailed him the dates (I have told him my Easter dates too, but that's not quite so bad as we aren't actually going away anywhere, due to MS studying for GCSEs).

There's no point in booking anything as they'd need a deposit and it's quite likely he'll decide he doesn't want those weeks anyway. This would compromise me at work as my boss, her boss and I cannot take leave at the same time so I have had to coordinate with them in order to book my 'slot'.

AIBU to ask him just to book his A/L, then at least I can sort out a shortlist for him to look at (he's working afh a lot, so it's really up to me to do the research and book up) and then ask him to actually get round to choosing something from my shortlist? It's the first time for years that we have both been working as employees as opposed to freelancers, so I think he is still acting like a self-employed contractor and assumes he can go on holiday whenever he feels like it.

I also have potential surgery to plan for between now and the summer and don't want to end up taking sick leave when I should be away with the family, and if I do opt to have surgery, I'll need to tell my surgeon any commitments we have.

AIBU?

Nope. Yadnbu

My OH takes FOREVER to book his annual leave. And his work are atrocious at replying to requests. Drives me nuts! Especially when trying to organise a get away, grrrrrr

Anyway, just tell him again to get it booked.

You could always just go on hols without him?

If he doesnt book it, plan to go without him.

Just tell him you are going and book a cottage.

I would give him one last week then book anyway. if he decides he doesnt want those weeks !!! You carry on and go away as he cant expect you to change after you have had to bother to organize with your work. He can go to work then take his annual leave during another time in the school hols and do childcare.

I suppose it depends on any AL restrictions there are in his work / demands.

I can pencil in annual leave up to a year in advance, but because I am very autonomous, I don;t actually need to book it until about a week before. OTOH if there are loads of demands / other colleagues to coordinate with, he needs to book it asap, unless of course, he is deliberately trying not to go?

Just emailed him again, with dates he needs to book and a couple of possibilities. He's in India right now so will see it in the morning. He's quite likely to read it, call me and argue about it but I don't need to him to decide on where to go when he opens his email, just to email HR with dates, before his colleagues book themselves up.

Sounds exactly like my DH.

after 30 years of marriage I now just tell him...'we are going on holiday on x date and deposit is paid, so get yer arse booked'.

I did once end up in barcelona, just me and the kids though.

I have to book at least 6 weeks in advance (so I've booked early) and coordinate with others. Don't know what his company policy is. Just concerned that dog friendly properties book up well in advance so I need to plan. Some places are booked up a year in advance.

I think I too would say - I'm going to book the cottage this weekend, and once that's booked there's no changing of dates, so if you want to come with us you need to book your leave now.

Gosh it all sounds far more stressful than it needs (and should be). I would give him the dates and it's up to him to book it (it's hardly a difficult job) and I'm with the people saying that if he fails to do it, I'd be going without him...I certainly don't have the patience to chase adults to ensure they have carried out simple tasks.