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Original poster

aibu to be annoyed at this? Or am I pregziller?

35 replies

Xo90 · 08/03/2015 19:45

I've been at work all day today, on my feet. I hadn't had a chance to sit down and had no break. I'm 31 weeks pregnant so although this is normal, it's getting harder.

So I come home hoping to sit on the sofa and relax for 10 minutes.

AIBU to be annoyed that dp's family are round being loud and I wasn't told they were round. His brother broke one of ds toys while play fighting with dp. It was an accident but he just laughed and found it funny that he'd broken it. I gave dp the glare! I find it really disrespectful.

There was no where for me to sit so I had to sit on the floor.

Now that I've written it out I feel like it's stupid to be annoyed and my hormones are playing up.

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AuntieStella · 08/03/2015 19:46

Whether hormones or not, you sound like you need a break.

Can you lock yourself in your bedroom with a good book until they leave?

WorkingBling · 08/03/2015 19:47

Well, I would broad say yanbu. Particularly in terms
Of the seat. However, does dp normally need to tell you if his family are over?

Breaking toy is ride and he should offer to replace it.
If it were me, I would politely excuse myself and go to my room with a book or the iPad. You don't need to be inconvenienced.

Happy36 · 08/03/2015 19:48

You are not being unreasonable. In this situation I would have excused myself after greeting the "guests" and gone to lie down with headphones on (or earplugs). Remind your husband to text you if his family pops round unexpectedly while you´re out.

LongDistanceLove · 08/03/2015 19:48

That would piss me off and I'm not pregnant. Yanbu at all.

bullseyebraces · 08/03/2015 19:49

They should have given you a seat. But otherwise, my DH is out at work
Today on a 12 hr shift, I am looking after the kids - I consider myself at liberty to have family/friends over as company.

ILovePud · 08/03/2015 19:50

I love the term Pregzilla I haven't heard that before, no YANBU, how fucking rude that none of them offered you their seat. Brew

RaptorInaPorkPieHat · 08/03/2015 19:55

you're sat on the floor! YANBU

Totality22 · 08/03/2015 19:59

Tell someone to get up if no one has had the sense or decency to offer you a seat.

hopingforamiracle · 08/03/2015 19:59

Heavily pregnant and they made you sit on the floor in your own home? Cheeky bastards, kick the fuckers out!

Original poster
Xo90 · 08/03/2015 20:03

I don't mind them being round. I just would of liked some pre warning, rather than walking into a huge mess and no where to sit. I do quite often sit on the floor when playing with ds but I REALLY wanted to sit on my sofa because my feet ache :(.

I'm more annoyed about dp brother breaking the toy and laughing about it :( ds was playing with it before hand and now he's wondering why it's not working like it did before.

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Original poster
Xo90 · 08/03/2015 20:04

I am in the bath now anyway Smile. My time to relax, they have all gone so it's nice and peaceful. I shall leave the mess and washing up till I get out the bath. Sad

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BitchBags · 08/03/2015 20:08

Wtf no one offered you a seat? Yadnbu. I would have been really pee'd off

WaxOnWaxOff · 08/03/2015 20:10

nobody, including your own DP offered you a seat? YANBU.

expecting your DP to text you to notify you of his family being at his house? YABU.

PostOfTheDay · 08/03/2015 20:12

Did you ask if anyone would give up their seat? I would have just asked Confused

comeagainforbigfudge · 08/03/2015 20:13

I would have pointedly asked for a seat!

Just because you quite often sit on floor with ds doesn't mean you, at 31 weeks and having worked all day, should just sit on floor!!

Also Shock at BIL laughing at breaking toy. You should accidently break one of his gadgets toys "by accident", just laugh and see how he likes it!!

Totality22 · 08/03/2015 20:14

Get your partner to do the washing up and clean up the mess. Oh and also get him to replace the toy that was broken (or ask his brother to replace it!!)

TheSingingMonkey · 08/03/2015 20:14

Why are you clearing it up?

llamallamaredpyjama · 08/03/2015 20:16

YANBU - unbelievable!! I'd expect the sofa clear and a cuppa and a snack ready with DH on his hands and knees acting as a footstool. Enjoy your bath. DONT DO THE DISHES! ??

noitsachicken · 08/03/2015 20:19

Why is it U to want to know you have visitors at home?!
I would hate to come home to an unexpected house full of people! No problem with DH having visitors if I am out, but I would expect to be told.

rockinrobintweet · 08/03/2015 20:21

I remember a similar situation when I was heavily pregnant and people assumed because I usually sit on the floor to play they didn't offer.. but in your own home? WOW!!

hope you have a relaxing evening (after everything's cleaned- make sure DH helps you!!) and a peaceful nights sleep Smile

BifsWif · 08/03/2015 20:21

YANBU. I'm 30 weeks pregnant and finding it tough, that's without being on my feet all day! Make him clean up the mess, you deserve a break!

Clarabell33 · 08/03/2015 20:29

YANBU. Even if you weren't pregnant, but as you are, I think you'd have been fully entitled to have a hormonal strop, starting with the 'what's everyone doing here? Would have been polite to let me know I would be arriving home to a party after a long day on my feet at work', via 'what the fuck has happened to my son's toy? A replacement will be arriving tomorrow, won't it...' and ending with 'and can someone get the fuck up so the tired pregnant lady can sit down? Unless every last one of you is also 31 weeks pregnant? Hmm?'

I may be slightly hormonally outraged on your behalf (36wks here). Luckily we no longer live near enough DH's family for them to pop in without some advance notice Smile

iLoveMushrooms · 08/03/2015 20:36

you should of just went to bed

BitterChocolate · 08/03/2015 20:41

I'm normally not impressed by people who use tears and histrionics, but in a case like this I think a full-blown sob-fest would get your point across nicely. Start with lots of snotty tears, then say "I don't believe this, my back hurts, my ankles hurt, I'm exhausted but not only can I not sit down in my own fucking house, I also have a mess to clean up and a toy to replace out of my own wages. Wages which were very hard earned today!" Then don't stop wailing until they either leave or sort things out.

At the very least they will tiptoe around you until after the birth.

Discopanda · 08/03/2015 21:07

YANBU they need to be more considerate

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