To be upset that I wasn't included in any of the photos?

[OhFlippityBolax]

I get that I'm no oil painting and would probably break the camera but at least Id make the others in the pictures look good right? So why, at a family event a few weeks ago, was I left out of all the photos? It's not like I avoided them, even when the 'formal' 'lets get a picture with the relatives who've travelled long journeys and not seen for years' pictures were taken I was handed the cameras and told to take the pictures. When I said 'ah now can we get some with me and the kids with x' suddenly everyone walked off

People have steadily been putting the photos up on facebook and emailing them round the family since the event and each time I see another batch I end up really upset.

I had really made an effort and looked, for me, quite good.

It's not the first time it's happened either. It even happened at my own wedding. The only photos im in are the formal ones. There are literally no guest snapshots that I'm in.

It's actually beginning to hurt quite a bit now. So what could possibly be the reason?! I'm all out of ideas!!

I do this to strangers who ask for pictures. I will do the first as asked but if asked for more I turn the camera, take note of me while they pose, hand phone back and run.

Why do that?

It's pretty nasty and pointless.

So asking a pissed stranger to take 10 photos of you in the same pose.

Well you didn't say it was just a one off incident.

Regardless I still think its nasty and pointless.

That's fine for you to think that. That is your opinion which you are more than welcome to share

My advice is to focus on your own immediate family, take lots of pics of just yourselves on days out etc... I agree that this may be indicative of a bigger issue than just pictures sadly.

My inlaws are a bit this way. Every January they send out a family calendar filled with pics of family members throughout the year and a pic of each person on their birthday. Dh and I don't have kids yet so no one includes us in pics at family get-togethers (at least that's our guess as to why we are never in pics) and frankly we couldn't give a toss. It amuses us each January to see which pictures of us the inlaws have stolen from facebook just so they have a pic or two of us in the calendar!

You are not being unreasonable. I think probably it´s just accidental. Be more assertive about refusing to play photographer and get yourself in the middle of the group when the cameras come out.