To not buy cigarettes for my parents?

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Both smoke, are not housebound, and know I hate them smoking. Yet when we visit, they will still ask me to buy packs of cigarettes for them if I'm popping to the shop. They pay for them etc, but I hate buying them. I do say no and explain why, but get eye rolling and huffing. AIBU?

YANBU, I think.

Well suddenly you have too much to do, and no time to pop to the shop

Or just say no sorry i dont want to.

I do think YABU, it's their choice to smoke and I think this isn't going to get them to stop, the only thing this will do is sour your relationship.

Yes, YABU. They are adults and can have what they want. If you, however, don't want to buy them,........then say so. You are not the Moral Police.

I wouldn't buy them.

I wouldn't buy them either. If they want to smoke, they can buy their own cigarettes but I wouldn't be supporting it in any way.

YANBU, they are for asking you to do something they know you are uncomfortable with. I can imagine it's a tricky situation though because they are your parents and you don't want there to be tension in your relationship. I think you just need to stick to your guns and try to avoid having to pop to the shops when you see them.

I know they're adults and can do what they like, I just don't want to help them kill themselves. And I don't want my DC seeing me buying them or handing them over. Eugh. I'm just going to have to avoid the shops.

I think that's the crux of it, Puds.

Yanbu. I would always be popping to the shop for my mam but she knows not to ask for cigarettes because I refuse to buy them.

I think saying you don't want your DC seeing you buying them/normalising smoking to them is a different and reasonable justification though. Then it's not about you being preachy to your parents.

YAnbu. Let them eye roll !

Yanbu my mum smokes and knows better then to ask me for them. It's their choice to kill themselves but you don't need to enable them. You wouldn't buy booze for alcoholics.

I do sympathise about you not wanting your parents to smoke and understand that you're thinking about this because your worried about their health. It is very hard watching anyone you love harming themselves and not being able to influence that.

YANBU

I've also refused to buy something for someone once, but it was the Daily Mail...

Having seen my MIL die a slow painful death from COPD I would never buy cigarettes for anyone. She smoked all her life. Such a lovely lady and I miss her every day.

My mum also smokes and knows not to ask me to get her cigarettes. I hate going to her house as it stinks and as soon as I leave I can smell smoke on my hair.

I would not buy cigarettes period. Addicts of all varieties are going to be in a bad way when the long expected lethal viral pandemic hits and our resupply chains are in chaos...

Hold your ground! Bloody hell that's a cheek. Walk to shops would do them good, anyway.

YANBU
Hard to say no, but equally hard to buy them something that is killing them. Good on you!

I cared for my parents for two years while my dad was being treated for lung cancer. I bought booze for my alcoholic mother, fags for my father and the Daily Mail for them to share. They were both adults and it wasn't/isn't my place to judge them.

I refused to enable my mum. She had a stroke at 47 but was lucky to make a good recovery. She still continued to smoke and I refused to be part of it.

I hate smoking with a passion. It's a filthy, disgusting habit, quite apart from the lethal aspects.
But I keep an eye on an elderly lady who lives nearby and who smokes heavily. She is one of the lucky 50% who haven't been killed off (yet) by a smoking-related disease, and it really is her "only pleasure in life". She would be distraught without it and even her GP has given up trying to persuade her to stop. So when she asks me to collect a pack of ciggies with her groceries, I do so.
She understands though that I won't stay for a cup of tea and breathe in her smoke.