To think that moody people are just manipulative fools?

[JudgeyHotPants]

I'm sure we all know people like this. Those who can't handle stress or tiredness or a bad day and rather than deal with it normally like a proper grown up have childlike strops, huffing, puffing and snapping the heads off people around them. My mum is like this and I've had a lifetime (and a belly full) of trying to navigate her moods, to the point that I now refuse to tolerate them by either calling her out on it and deliberately being really cheerful and upbeat.

Occasionally when I've done this I've had an apology for it, but most of the time I'm made to feel like I'm out of order for not understanding that is in a bad mood and that her moods are more important than anything else, and that we should all be in a mood if she is in one. Part of me understands why is like this as her own mum was a very difficult woman, but that's not my fault is it?

What the hell is wrong with these people? Why can't they be grown ups instead of acting like sulky toddlers.

That's true, Bose, I think there is a difference between the two.

How timely! I've just spent my weekend at my grandfather's (who behaves in a similar manner) after my aunty called me up in a panic because he was threatening to get himself admitted to hospital just so she'd rush over from the other side of our vast country sooner. She's coming on Wednesday. I cooked up a large roast last night which he decided he wasn't going to eat halfway through cooking it. He's in a right strop this morning and sighing heavily, obviously hoping I'll ask him what's wrong just so he can tell me all the things that are. Let me put it this way, he's in a better financial and health position than 98% of his peers. He's said that he can't go to a nursing home because they will find out he's a danger and evict him - upon pressing apparently it's due to his brain shorting powers which could potentially cause electrical items like the fridge to blow up. not that he believes any of that shite by the way, it's all a ruse to try and convince my aunty to leave her family and come take care of him fulltime.

I have a boss who is a narcissist like you describe. I am a nanny so very difficult at times as I feel I am frequently walking on eggshells.

I also have friends suffering from depression or going through rough patches where they feel very low. This is completely different. They do not put others down making them feel worthless or take out their frustration on others.

Everyone has a bad day from time to time but deal with it like an adult, don't sulk and expect the situation to fix itself.

my eldest dd is like this, often has a face like a slapped arse, her dad was just the same.

One of my colleagues is like this. She throws strops to get her own way, cries if that doesn't work and generally has managed to manipulate and "moody" her way out of doing her fair share of work. The managers are frightened of upsetting her. It really fucks me off,

i got reallocated one of her cases (she is off with "stress") and she had done absolutely no work on it, it had all been done by others. She was being given fewer allocations than everyone else, wasn't actually doing any of the work herself and, worst of all, was constantly complaining that people weren't helping her enough.