... to not be dealing well with the sudden mope of a rope my DC has become?

[WhatTheEel]

13 and miserable... tears over EVERYTHING.
School= hates everything, does well ironically, enjoys the learning, kids are horrible... every day it's tears and just unhappiness.

Life at home= happy, fine, nice to us but just cries over every effort. So if DC has to leave the house on the weekend there are tears... "I'm too tired". Everything is just such an effort and the emotional pendulum just swings like mad.
We don't get a lot of backchat or ranting... just unhappiness, tears... sluggishness, unwillingness to do anything, idleness.

DC just seems to unhappy.
Is this normal???

Mope ON A Rope my title was supposed to read! Arrrgh! Why can't we edit?

Sounds like depression to me.

Do you think he/she is getting bullied?

It sounds like they're depressed, maybe have a chat with the GP

It does sound like depression. I second a visit to the GP.

You spend a long time in school if you aren't happy there that will bring a kid down. Has she any friends there? What would she like to do to make things better at school?

Blood tests at the very least I reckon - anaemia? B12 deficiency? Both have these symptoms.

I would absolutely put my money on being bullied.

Speak to pastoral care/tutor, set out what's happening at home.

Poor thing, a miserable time.

for you.

Poor kid, such a worry too for you.

I'd get in touch with school and see what's what, see a GP and ask for a blood test to rule out anything physical.

My DD (now almost 18) was exactly like this when she started High School (which is what we call it in Scotland before I get loads of "Are You American?" posts).

She attained reasonably well academically but struggled with the new social pecking order. It got a little better in 3rd year but she never, ever enjoyed school. At no time was she "bullied" but she was seriously miserable and I had to keep a close eye on her.

I hope things improve, it's soul destroying seeing your DC so unhappy.

With my now-older teen, we found that talking side by side, with hands busy (peeling potatoes, winding yarn) was quite productive. As opposed to facing each other with loads of eye contact, which caused a lot of clam-ups.

Not sure if am explaining well

Agree with Dandy...we started off by sitting on the bed (either hers or mine) sometimes for several hours without making any real progress but if it was during an inane TV programme (think Real Housewives or that ilk) or washing the dishes, much more headway was made.

i was like this as a teen in school i had was depressed and being bullied. My mum never supported me and in fact kicked me out and i have never forgiven her since i actually havent spoken to her in two years dont make the same mistake