...from sil?
sil lives close by. she is a mature woman. no children. she dotes on her nephews but always hedges her bets when invited to something related to them. we're talking maybe 3-4 times a year. birthday tea for just family or watching them if they have a major part in a school play. i don't want to out myself by giving too much detail but she has recently said yes to attending an event and pulled out on the day. now there is another very small but special family event planned. she says she'll try and make it. this is a typical. but i want to know numbers and to tell the dc if she is coming. they love her and are quite grown up dc and will def notice her absence.
AIBU to just want a straight yes or no? tbh i often ask her to ensure she feels included, rather than it making a massive difference if she comes or not. but it drives me potty to be half waiting for someone and not know if they're coming till the hour or 2 before. aibu to say that if you're invited to something, you just say yes. or no. none of this maybe shite! aibu to text and say let me know night before so i know numbers? i feel petty but her attitude really irritates me.