To inwardly cringe....

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When people say little kids have a bf or gf? It just seems so wrong to me. Im not talking about. Friend who is a boy or a girl but when people actually encourage be and gf talk like it is cute, when it's not. Dsis does it and I just cringe.m

Cringe away.

Their children, their business.

It annoys me. My daughter is quite shy, she's 8. When she becomes friendly or is chatting with a boy someone always pips in 'oooh is he your boyfriend' etc. She hates it, she gets really upset and I don't blame her. We should let kids be kids. Can't boys and girls just be friends?

My son says he has a girlfriend. My sister says she has boyfriends.

They are 5. It means nothing.

YANBU. I cringe too.

DS has a friend who is a girl at nursery. He was talking to my friend about his friends at nursery, and when he mentioned the girl's name my friend said, "Oooh XXX has a giiiirlfriend!" and I was a bit She didn't mention boyfriend when he spoke about all his male friends, so I found it odd that someone would pick up on a three-year old having a friend of the opposite sex and making a thing about it. DS had no idea what my friend meant though, what with being 3 and all!

The assumption thing happens at all ages.

I was in Tesco with a male colleague outside of work hours and we were 'seen' by another colleague who told everyone we were a couple.

Tesco cafe is where I go for a romantic date!

YABU - I don't say my Ds has a girlfriend - he does. He's only 5 but he's going through that stage where he talks about 'when I get married, when I get a house, when I become Ironman, when I get superpowers...etc' and other equally bemusing stuff.

I don't think it's amazingly cute or anything or particularly encourage it (infact the 'girlfriend' in question DF and I laugh about it because they are like Laurel and Hardy together) but I don't discourage it either, it's just what he thinks. It doesn't make me cringe though.

Perhaps it might be different if he was older or I was saying it to him and he was embarrassed or if it was forced because of parents frienships - that would be weird.

My ds said he had a girlfriend and when I enquired further, he revealed that he had never spoken to her, not she to him. He had stood near her in the playground though.