5yo DS has broken his friend's action figure at school. DS story is that they were playing together with it, they each had an arm and were pulling it "playing stretchers". Friend's story is that DS was trying to take it off him and the pulling back and forth was them fighting over it.
As I didn't see the incident, it was on school premises during school hours, and I've heard two different versions I don't think I can tell DS off or issue any sort of sanction or punishment. Instead I've had a talk with him about respecting other people's property and said that, regardless of how it happened, he should apologise to his friend for his part in it.
DH thinks I'm being soft and that DS should either have to give the friend his favourite toy to keep or use his piggy bank money to buy the friend a replacement toy. He has also asked DS if he thinks we should take a toy to school tomorrow for the friend to break in return.
I'm told him, out of earshot of the children, that he's being an arse OTT over a trivial issue that had already been resolved.
Am I right?