To let my toddler sleep?

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My daughter is 2, 3 in a few days. She goes to nursery 3 days a week for 5 hours each time. She has not napped in the day since she was just 2 but has started to want a nap in the afternoon from about 1 till about 4 ish. It's worth nothing that she has möbius syndrome and is currently being studied in regards to sleep apnea, which is why I think she is extra tired atm.

My husband doesn't want her to sleep in the day, to wake her up because at night she doesn't get tired until 9pm which obviously isn't great.

My problem is that dd is obviously tired in the day lately and I should let her sleep and until her apnea is diagnosed through her neurologist and she has cpap I'd like to just leave her be.

The sleeping pattern although unusual for her is not affecting her playing, nursery etc and when she's awake she's alert etc, to give an example here is her schedule:

Monday up 7:00, school 8:00, back at home 13:00, nap Till 4ish then dinner 16:30-17:00, bath and then sleep circa 21:00

Tuesday up 7:00, lunch 11:30, nap 13:00 till 4ish then bath and bed at 21:00

Wednesday up7:00, school 8:00, home 13:00, no nap, bath and bed at 18:30

Ther routine goes something like this and it will alternate.

Aibu to just tell dh to leave it alone and I won't wake her (since she's super crabby and that's if I can wake her up) and not be upset because she goes to bed later when she does nap?

Is your husband at home to handle her when she gets very tired during the week? If not I'd go with you gut. DH has some opinions about daytimes naps but those are put to one side as soon as he leaves the house because frankly, there's nothing worse than an over-tired toddler. Not letting them nap sometimes has the opposite effect and sends them mad, because they get so far past tired they get their second wind and still don't sleep at bedtime (I know from DS1 that over tiredness is so much worse than plain tiredness).

She sounds as though she's very busy and possibly having a bit of a growth spurt, so needs more sleep. DS2 still naps in an afternoon and he's 4. He'll hopefully have grown out of needing it by the time he goes to Uni. Let her sleep while she needs it.

Lol Charlotte at napping at uni! I lived abroad where a siesta was the norm and sleep in the afternoons :)

He isn't at home to deal with her, the only thing is that she goes to bed late and sometimes I'm asleep by 8pm so he has to have her until she sleep which tbh she'll just play on her iPad or snuggle with me in bed until she falls asleep.