What's the point if you can't disagree or ask questions

[FacebookDramaYo]

Have NC just in case

On Facebook (sorry all) I'm part of a mum's group a parent of some girl posted that their daughters friend (26 weeks pregnant) had to go to hospital due to some bleeding whilst at college, the college let her make her own way 2 buses and a ferry and didn't call an ambulance she's livid they let her make her own way there (fair enough it's a long way to go by herself). baby is all okay though.

People asked why the girls didn't call an ambulance herself the responses where;

1 - because they're just kids
2 - why should they, the college should have
3 - Ambulance is quicker
4 - The college should of called the parents

They pulled apart one person for mentioning that maybe the college (rightly or wrongly) assumed that if the girls didn't call an ambulance she was fine to not go get checked out by ambulance and it wasn't major bleeding IYKWIM. Also that ambulance isn't necessarily quicker. She stated that she was glad the baby was okay but this could be used for the college to make sure it doesn't happen again. Also that the midwife should of covered this with her and I agree the excuse "she's just a kid" doesn't really work when you're pregnant you can't be a kid you have to be an adult. She wasn't being horrible and other people had asked the same question

the poster was outraged that she didn't agree with her and called for her to be banned she was then told "your opinions have ruffled a few peoples feathers and maybe she should either agree or not say her different opinion otherwise we'll remove you from the group"

AIBU to think what the fuck is the point in a group if you're all suppose to be a nodding Churchill dog agreeing with each other because you're not allowed to disagree

How old is the girl who is pregnant?

YANBU, sounds like a dictatorship.

If you're old enough to be having a baby, you're old enough to call your own ambulance. Or not, more to the point, because unless you're actually haemorraging you don't need an ambulance at all.

And why would you want to be a member of the group if they want to remove people for talking sense?

The girl was either 17 or 16, she never said who was the eldest.

To be honest no idea, they're all have to be in agreement with each other otherwise people get their feelings hurt and call for the non-agreers to be banned

I know the fb group. The admins aren't interested in the individuals, it's a medium for pushing the YAYB classes. That's why I prefer this forum as you stay anonymous and can say what you mean.

What's YAYB?

It's horrid, tbh she's the only one I've noticed that doesn't go with the majority and they're on her like vipers. It's quite horrid

Yabu - go start your own movement if you're unhappy at how it's administrated.

unless the 16 year old was very heavily bleeding she didn't need an ambulance though. I suppose some would argue it would have beeb kind to call a taxi.

YAYB - You and your baby.

Are you an admin of the group,SweetValentine?

You should just leave the group, OP.

Thanks num

Just finished reading the posts, bizarre how that went wasn't it. Fwiw, I agreed with her!

To be honest you get that on pretty much any group or forum (even this one). It's never going to change.

Oh - I thought if it was a much younger girl then there could be some justification for passing the buck and not expecting her to be responsible for her own care, but I think at that age it's reasonable.

Do you get much out of the group? It sounds like more hassle that it's worth!

Presumably "the point" is for people to receive support. I have no idea what group it is, so wouldn't know, but just going on common sense/very basic social skills, I would imagine someone bleeding during pregnancy to be in a distressed state, especially if they are quite young. Therefore it is inappropriate to use a post about the subject to air anything other than sympathy towards the person. This is very, very basic- in the same way that one does not say 'oh well why did you have so many children?' to a recently widowed person trying to claim tax credits to support their family, for example (perhaps contrary to current popular opinion, but really not so difficult to understand).

I do actually have an autism spectrum disorder, so if I can figure out that someone posting about something upsetting probably wants sympathy rather than a lecture, all you "neurotypicals" can probably work it out too. Not really sure why you are struggling with it- perhaps you need to be diagnosed with something?

perhaps you need to be diagnosed with something?

seriously?

And the bizarreness continues.

WoodliceCollection The person posting isn't the possibly distressed it's a parent of one of that woman's friends, so why would the thread need to be sympathy only? If it was the mother who had bled/was bleeding- yes but this person isn't even related and wasn't there.

Exactly, the mother is now attacking someone else for saying the girls didn't need an ambulance and that she should of called someone she's going to be a mother so isn't A young girl and needs to grow up. She's now apparently a narcissistic, vile and horrid. It is a case of I'll pick a big word out the dictionary to use on you if you don't agree

OP Just leave the group, I left yahoo groups bcause it went to the dogs and joined live journal instead. These moderators/admin sound at the best useless at the worst weak and dictatory.

Someone isn't going to need sympathy when they're posting about their daughters friend. That makes it a discussion point, not something where people should have to be expected to lay on virtual hugs.

Perhaps that's why some people were struggling with it.

woodlice I guess you didnt read the bit about the poster being the Mother of this girls friend? Why on earth would she need support, she wasnt bleeding?